Re: lets face it. all the jobs you just mentioned are jobs illegals take
Aisha Send a noteboard - 21/11/2011 12:19:52 AM
*EDIT* Now as a dislcaimer, im just gonna say that if my husband lost his job in Finance/IT and it came down to our survival and paying for our house, he would work in a gas station cleaning toilets to make sure we were taken care of, but that attitude comes from growing up in a third world country where its dog eat dog and you have seen what poverty is. Thats not the case here in America. however, if it came down to working at Mcdonalds and selling her home she would do that(it would probably kill her pride), but I sympathize with her when she feels she shouldn't have to resort to that because she was great at her job and worked her ass off at Goldman for 7 years only to get the boot with countless others, Finance is a messed up field now and its hard to go back to school and find something else you are good at after so long.
1. It's not just third world people who are raised like your husband, you are probably correct about a majority of people like your friend, but not everyone who was born here has that under-developed work ethic, I was raised by farm oriented family ... and was working (without pay) at 10 years old ...
2. I am just seeking clarification on: "she feels she shouldn't have to resort to that because she was great at her job and worked her ass off at Goldman for 7 years only to get the boot with countless others" ... so she's had 7 years to plan for these types of eventualities and did nothing? It strikes me as odd that someone associated with finance could be that short sighted as to live paycheck to paycheck in such a good paying job without planning for contingencies? Did she live that far above her true means?
I guessI didnt mention the fact that she has a deadbeat ex husband that stopped paying his fair share because he lost his job in finance as well is a reason she is stretched so thin even with her savings, she didn't think she would be this long with the kind of job she had and she wasnt counting on her ex stopping his share of the payments for the kids, house, their joint credit card debt from before the divorce, her lawyers fees for taking him to court every few months to fight for the custody arrangements and all the other bullshit that comes with divorce. its an all around messy situation. and i know not everyone has her problems but its still a tough job market out there for thsoe looking for work. In my husbands field lots of high paying jobs that are beign done by americans are being shipped out to India, its gotten so bad that we have indian friends moving from America to India with their families to keep their jobs.
3. "its hard to go back to school and find something else you are good at after so long" - this is a falsehood. I went to school at a local community college with a number of dislocated employess from many different fields who either lost work, and they were taking their college courses for practically, and in some cases completely, free. I sympathize that she would have to find something else to do with her life, but come on - there are ways to help yourself in her situation if she's willing/motivated enough. I am not trying to heap condemnation on your friend or you, but it seems as if her pity party is keeping her from taking advantage of her options, and as her friend you should be pointing her in that direction. Change is Life, not just a part of it.
you are right, but this is one of those easier said than done cases
Just my take, hope your friend finds peace with whatever existence she manages to eek out,
-Roon
Aisha - formerly known as randschicka
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Huzah! A man chooses and a slave obeys! *NM*
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Yeah, 'cos YTs comments are all about disobedience, and the OWSers are all about submission.
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Actually, my comment are about taking responsibility for yourself. *NM*
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As usual you miss the point completely. *NM*
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You want people vocally refusing slavery to return to slavery; I got the point.
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If what I was saying amounted to that than what your arguing for would to...
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This is also not about you; the response to which you replied here has been edited accordingly.
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How much violence has there actually been?
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Re: How much violence has there actually been?
20/11/2011 12:44:00 PM
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Because it's easy.
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I think it's great that student loans can't be discharged in bankruptcy.
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Asian parents have the right idea
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because that's not a huge generalization of an entire race...
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every pakistani, indian, viet, chinese, cambodian person I know (and thats a lot) ....
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I had a lot of asian peers in class growing up with parents who were not like that
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I understand that, and agree to a certain extent.
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To take it a step further
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HUZZAH! Very well said.
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Our leaders should be held accountable for refusing to lead, and we for accepting that.
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I think people were jeering OWS for not being "focused" because there are so many damn problems
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Largely true, in many respects; again, the Tea Party had much the same problem for the same reasons.
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It is WEIRD when Ron Paul consistently comes off as the least insane GOP candidate
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Yeah, I recall that link, and still do not entirely agree with it.
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"There are plenty of jobs and pay"... Do you read the news? *NM*
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Yep, there are lots of jobs...
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Re: Yep, there are lots of jobs...
22/11/2011 04:01:35 AM
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I know about a dozen Philosophy Majors off the top of my head, all of whom are gainfully employed.
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Re:I know about a dozen Philosophy Majors off the top of my head,all of whom are gainfully employed.
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Excercise in creative thinking...
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So you think there's no real unemployment problem aside from people being lazy and entitled? *NM*
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I'm sorry dude, but there ARE jobs.
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but what kind of jobs?
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"My plastic surgeon" WTF Aisha
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Im a nurse
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You had me worried about the young girl I used to know for a moment. *NM*
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I actually have a lot of respect for plastic surgeons outside pure cosmetics
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job that pay money
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lets face it. all the jobs you just mentioned are jobs illegals take
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Re: lets face it. all the jobs you just mentioned are jobs illegals take
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Re: lets face it. all the jobs you just mentioned are jobs illegals take
21/11/2011 12:19:52 AM
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That's a shitty situation
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First of all, I worked at a dairy and have a friend who busses tables.
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Actually it is the case in some parts of America. Just not the parts that get mentioned.
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Doesn't matter when people aren't there, or people don't have the required skills.
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If you can drive a truck I can get you a job tommorw hauling sand for fracing *NM*
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...I feel like you've been getting all of your information from TV News. This isn't about bills.
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Wait...you think there is a problem with courts treating corporations as persons?
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You know what he meant.
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You're talking about the Supreme Court case Citizens United v. Federal Elections Commission.
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Pretty sure the inception of corporations was not 1886.
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You do realize...
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Almost anything CAN happen.
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Actually I think we should be prosecuting these people
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Well, this is a red letter day; I agree with nearly, perhaps ENTIRELY, all of what you said here.
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You're right. I will hand you your ass on this one. If you give me gloves before touching it.
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Funny how once we as a society used protesting for non personal gain ...
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Good post
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The UN is clearly out of touch with reality.
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"There is no right to work"?
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That would be a legal right relating to unions not a basic human right. *NM*
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Right; there is a right to work when it suits you, and not when it does not.
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...do you know what "right-to-work" in those states entails?
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I would not pretend to be an authority on it, no, but broadly speaking, yes.
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Also, do you even have a job yet? *NM*
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Ikke ennĂ¥.
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So do you think there is no cause whatsoever for protest?
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I don't think the protest is about being people feeling entitled
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Re: I don't think the protest is about being people feeling entitled
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