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Having a need isn't the same thing as being needy. globug0822 Send a noteboard - 30/06/2011 02:49:12 AM


Nothing to do with insecurity. Some people need to be looked at and admired, or just paid attention to. Doesn't even matter if it's romantic. Even if I'm spending time with someone totally platonically, if someone's not looking at me it's going to bother me. I've even made comments to a few people on non emergency cell phone use when one has the option of interacting with a real live person.



I couldn't tell if you were doing one of those things where you were so blatant it was hard to tell if you're being sarcastic. But basically, "some people just need to be constantly paid attention to," (and that is what this is, constant- the OP says this happens whenever they're out, it's not a one time thing) is essentially the definition of needy and insecure.



I definitely agree that dialing up the obvious checking-her-out might be a good idea, and calm her insecurities (plus, it can be fun- I have nothing against PDAs). But in order to calm her insecurities, let's admit that yes, this girl does seem to have them.


And just to make it snarky:

needy |ˈnēdē|
adjective ( needier , neediest )
(of a person) lacking the necessities of life; very poor : needy and elderly people.
• (of circumstances) characterized by poverty : those from needy backgrounds.

insecure |ˌinsiˈkyoŏr|
adjective
1 (of a person) not confident or assured; uncertain and anxious : a top model who is notoriously insecure about her looks | a rather gauche, insecure young man.


Just because a person is insecure and has a deficiency in something they need doesn't make them bad or unworthy. Just because she constantly does it when they are out doesn't mean she needs attention constantly. When you have a deficiency it just grows worse and worse until you get caught up.

I am not saying that you SAID that she was unworthy, necessarily, but you and most of the people in this thread are implying just that.

She needs attention and doesn't know how to ask for it, I expect. It's not like there is a "I am not having my needs met for Dummies"... unless there is, in which case someone should buy it for her.


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