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You're basically just saying that American attitudes toward sex results in repressed women Helene Send a noteboard - 13/06/2011 09:03:47 PM
That doesn't mean that they can't be unrepressed, by showing appreciation.

It's sad that sex is treated that way in the US, but that doesn't mean that all American women are inherently not worthwhile.
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He’s Just Not That Into Anyone (an article about watching porn and men's changing libidos). - 11/06/2011 10:52:10 PM 3151 Views
I disagree with the whole last third or fourth of the article. - 12/06/2011 02:01:40 AM 937 Views
Re: I disagree with the whole last third or fourth of the article. - 12/06/2011 08:49:39 PM 1215 Views
A lot of guys who get hooked on porn don't know how to approach women - 12/06/2011 10:55:17 PM 1153 Views
Funny - 13/06/2011 01:22:28 AM 1126 Views
You obviously never had a fulfilling long term sexual relationship with a woman. - 13/06/2011 10:43:23 AM 893 Views
Oh My - 13/06/2011 03:29:34 PM 944 Views
*giggle* - 13/06/2011 03:46:28 PM 965 Views
What did I do to put a bee in your bonnet? *NM* - 13/06/2011 06:23:01 PM 427 Views
Bee? - 13/06/2011 06:24:35 PM 929 Views
Oh, I tend to be loving and appreciative - 13/06/2011 05:08:56 PM 890 Views
That isnt fair, Helene *NM* - 13/06/2011 06:22:25 PM 471 Views
What isn't fair? - 13/06/2011 08:07:08 PM 1094 Views
I'm not looking for someone to fix, but the not fair bit I was refering to was little irony dig *NM* - 13/06/2011 10:10:11 PM 493 Views
You don't need to be broken to enjoy being appreciated - 13/06/2011 10:17:01 PM 894 Views
No, Helene, You repeatedly attempt to sidetrack discussion with attacks against my person - 13/06/2011 10:20:01 PM 1030 Views
But it makes me feel good - 13/06/2011 10:45:07 PM 902 Views
I'm not a hedonist - 13/06/2011 10:57:25 PM 1060 Views
So indignant! - 13/06/2011 11:53:41 PM 1062 Views
I don't believe that at all. - 13/06/2011 04:48:26 AM 1042 Views
Entirely agree *NM* - 13/06/2011 04:33:04 PM 514 Views
Showing appreciation is a losing strategy. - 13/06/2011 04:55:09 AM 1002 Views
So you don't know how to open a woman up sexually - 13/06/2011 10:51:17 AM 1008 Views
Oh how clever of you! - 13/06/2011 09:59:01 PM 1097 Views
Not to gang up on you or anything, but... - 13/06/2011 10:15:57 PM 1023 Views
It's that the prudishness is indicative of a more general sense of entitlement and manipulativeness. - 13/06/2011 11:02:20 PM 1100 Views
Yes. And "passive-aggressive behavior" is another one I'd add. *NM* - 13/06/2011 11:18:40 PM 377 Views
So far in this debate, you've only displayed your feelings of entitlement - 14/06/2011 12:05:16 AM 902 Views
Guys have their own problems, but the conversation is revolving around women at the moment. *NM* *NM* - 14/06/2011 01:23:20 AM 485 Views
The conversation did start being about MEN's problems. - 14/06/2011 03:36:36 AM 973 Views
Be good, Ana. - 14/06/2011 03:40:12 AM 753 Views
You may be mistaken. - 14/06/2011 03:54:28 AM 982 Views
Thats unfortuanate, Ana - 14/06/2011 03:58:50 AM 878 Views
I am introspecting, yes. - 14/06/2011 04:02:32 AM 882 Views
No, I wasnt attempting to do so - 14/06/2011 04:09:29 AM 1040 Views
Re: You may be mistaken. - 15/06/2011 01:21:16 AM 1033 Views
The only reason the conversation is revolving around women is because Tom laid all the blame at - 14/06/2011 07:35:34 AM 1068 Views
Let's be clear: I was speaking about American women *NM* - 14/06/2011 02:10:10 PM 383 Views
Oh, that part is quite clear. *NM* - 14/06/2011 08:25:08 PM 503 Views
Wow.. all the misogynists came out to play - 13/06/2011 11:57:05 PM 1075 Views
I'm glad you're in here. - 14/06/2011 12:04:03 AM 1025 Views
Seconded *NM* - 14/06/2011 04:46:38 PM 449 Views
I don't see a lot of misogyny. - 14/06/2011 12:59:06 AM 839 Views
You are blind to misogyny because you lack awareness in that area - 14/06/2011 07:38:48 AM 902 Views
Okay, so I'm a date rapist and a misogynist...real classy - 14/06/2011 02:11:40 PM 838 Views
I neither called you a date rapist nor a misogynist - 14/06/2011 03:10:46 PM 874 Views
Why misogynist? Why not Anti-American? - 14/06/2011 01:32:17 AM 1397 Views
So, which women are better than American women? - 14/06/2011 03:38:38 AM 1045 Views
Re: Haha - 14/06/2011 04:18:46 AM 941 Views
You seem very intent on coming off as the smartest guy in the room. - 14/06/2011 04:40:26 AM 1042 Views
I think that's an unfair characterization of the RP board - 14/06/2011 04:58:29 AM 928 Views
Ha! I'm just fucking around. - 14/06/2011 05:14:20 AM 965 Views
Re: Ha! I'm just fucking around. - 14/06/2011 05:42:37 AM 788 Views
Who are you, again? - 14/06/2011 05:07:04 AM 780 Views
Tsk. I need to be more memorable. - 14/06/2011 05:16:33 AM 1110 Views
Well, try to be more openminded. - 14/06/2011 05:22:52 AM 1008 Views
Fair enough. I do quite like Gaps. - 14/06/2011 05:31:05 AM 1003 Views
Why all this vitriol? - 14/06/2011 05:18:16 AM 972 Views
Book clubs? Bullshit! women shouldn't be reading at all!!! - 15/06/2011 01:28:41 AM 988 Views
Re: Oh wow, nice. - 14/06/2011 12:25:53 PM 779 Views
Perhaps one day I'll get a Chinese husband. - 14/06/2011 04:41:59 AM 1082 Views
Spain, Norway, Japan? - 14/06/2011 04:38:43 AM 1037 Views
Norway is the only one that passes. - 14/06/2011 01:14:54 PM 884 Views
I really like the Netherlands - 14/06/2011 01:29:08 PM 953 Views
Re: I really like the Netherlands - 14/06/2011 04:51:11 PM 852 Views
Why did I pick that one? Because you completely ignore men's part in a culture that sexually - 14/06/2011 07:54:39 AM 1042 Views
Helene, you're also not an American woman. - 14/06/2011 01:03:23 PM 1049 Views
You're not American either. *NM* - 14/06/2011 02:26:34 PM 336 Views
I didn't ignore it at all. I just bracketed it. It's quite possible, you know. - 14/06/2011 08:49:03 PM 1024 Views
You have strange expectations and ideas of me. *NM* - 14/06/2011 08:52:09 PM 423 Views
Likewise. BFF? *NM* - 14/06/2011 09:08:53 PM 365 Views
Nice! /me high Fives Helene!! *NM* - 14/06/2011 02:32:27 AM 346 Views
Oh, but I can do any and all of these things! - 14/06/2011 12:06:41 AM 1030 Views
I said there were exceptions. - 14/06/2011 03:50:27 AM 886 Views
True. - 14/06/2011 09:03:46 PM 859 Views
hey! I really like your poem "name" - syllables knowing other lovers - excellent. - 15/06/2011 01:49:06 AM 826 Views
Thanks! *NM* - 15/06/2011 09:44:18 PM 486 Views
I agree. - 13/06/2011 01:23:51 PM 991 Views
Obviously inside the bedroom. - 13/06/2011 05:17:31 PM 1072 Views
Inside the bedroom? Sure. I could agree. But you're not American anyway. - 13/06/2011 08:52:42 PM 946 Views
You're basically just saying that American attitudes toward sex results in repressed women - 13/06/2011 09:03:47 PM 1029 Views
Theoretically they can be "unrepressed". But why waste the time and effort? - 13/06/2011 10:06:52 PM 1082 Views
How can you tell it's because she cares, instead of because that's what's traditionally expected - 13/06/2011 10:48:12 PM 1001 Views
That's a good point! *NM* - 15/06/2011 04:49:11 AM 470 Views
The answer is that it doesn't matter. - 16/06/2011 05:35:47 PM 1075 Views
I agree that the answer doesn't matter - 16/06/2011 07:09:44 PM 762 Views
It's funny - 13/06/2011 02:51:03 PM 1151 Views
Well of course you can't see the faults of American women. You're American. - 13/06/2011 08:51:35 PM 1048 Views
I'm sure that American women, along with all other women on earth - 13/06/2011 09:00:33 PM 1067 Views
It's not my job to make a girl comfortable about her sexuality. - 13/06/2011 10:03:27 PM 960 Views
THIS *NM* - 13/06/2011 10:09:14 PM 453 Views
If the sex is all there is, then yes, makes sense. - 13/06/2011 10:18:15 PM 1046 Views
Who willingly goes into a relationship knowing the sex will be bad? - 14/06/2011 03:52:43 AM 954 Views
You and your friends? - 14/06/2011 05:46:53 AM 931 Views
And you don't think that the men in these relationships contributed to the current situation at all? - 14/06/2011 07:59:15 AM 748 Views
In this particular aspect, absolutely not. - 14/06/2011 02:19:33 PM 939 Views
Of course I consider that you might be right - 14/06/2011 03:59:50 PM 1051 Views
I'm not ignoring any complexities - 14/06/2011 05:00:04 PM 1004 Views
Loads of people, if that's compensated by other things? - 14/06/2011 08:38:45 PM 1109 Views
I would rather be in a good marriage with bad sex than the other way around *NM* - 14/06/2011 10:33:27 PM 532 Views
I suspect that you are in a good marriage with good sex. - 16/06/2011 01:55:29 AM 1027 Views
Of course it is your job as a sex partner to make your partner feel comfortable about being with you - 13/06/2011 10:50:52 PM 885 Views
THIS. *NM* - 13/06/2011 11:49:28 PM 430 Views
I was going to say the same. - 14/06/2011 12:11:18 AM 1072 Views
Like fucking Hell it is. - 14/06/2011 12:18:02 AM 839 Views
You're totally cracking me up in here. - 14/06/2011 12:30:39 AM 975 Views
You think you're offending me? - 14/06/2011 01:10:56 AM 984 Views
No. - 14/06/2011 08:01:45 PM 1012 Views
Have you ever been accused of date rape? - 14/06/2011 12:46:30 AM 801 Views
No. And that's an absurd question. - 14/06/2011 01:08:13 AM 876 Views
No, the point you were arguing was absurd. I just pointed out what you were arguing. - 14/06/2011 08:03:13 AM 1050 Views
Let's cut the sophistry - 14/06/2011 02:24:52 PM 1039 Views
What's the definition of prude anyway? - 14/06/2011 03:58:03 PM 912 Views
If that's what you wanted to say, it would have helped for you to be more explicit. - 14/06/2011 04:10:43 PM 969 Views
"Why do these women use sex as a manipulative tool?" - 14/06/2011 05:06:33 PM 1010 Views
It seems to me there is a very simple answer to that question. - 14/06/2011 05:26:09 PM 914 Views
I don't think it works at all. - 14/06/2011 05:48:48 PM 886 Views
Your anecdotal evidence suggests otherwise. - 14/06/2011 06:31:28 PM 1151 Views
I don't think so. - 15/06/2011 03:50:25 AM 905 Views
I agree with every single thing you just said. *NM* - 15/06/2011 05:03:05 AM 360 Views
Oddly enough, I do too - 15/06/2011 02:00:39 PM 1003 Views
I agree with Sareitha. Women do that because it (apears to) works for them, in the short term - 14/06/2011 08:28:11 PM 852 Views
I can't see that I would put up with that either - 14/06/2011 10:32:09 PM 935 Views
Right - 14/06/2011 10:59:10 PM 915 Views
mode was a typeo but I guess it still works - 14/06/2011 11:23:11 PM 1023 Views
A fairly self-aware American. With many female friends, even - 13/06/2011 11:59:34 PM 1023 Views
Yeah I don't buy that "most American girls are prudes" concept - 14/06/2011 04:10:37 PM 644 Views
A moment - 14/06/2011 05:01:05 PM 885 Views
Camilla, I'm trying to keep this at arm's length a bit. - 14/06/2011 05:42:18 PM 888 Views
But you started it. - 14/06/2011 08:43:47 PM 957 Views
I did start it, yes. - 16/06/2011 03:32:54 PM 932 Views
You should have quit before this. - 16/06/2011 03:46:01 PM 1008 Views
No, I shouldn't have. - 16/06/2011 04:03:21 PM 944 Views
The problem with your list is that it's performance-oriented. - 16/06/2011 10:45:22 PM 906 Views
Of course it's performance-oriented. - 16/06/2011 10:54:22 PM 847 Views
This really made me laugh - 16/06/2011 04:26:32 PM 918 Views
Re: I did start it, yes. - 16/06/2011 03:46:06 PM 826 Views
Yes, we do! - 16/06/2011 04:04:02 PM 1015 Views
Having now looked over the smileys - 16/06/2011 04:09:55 PM 993 Views
See what I'm talking about? - 16/06/2011 07:09:10 PM 914 Views
That may have been the worst pun ever! *NM* - 17/06/2011 12:47:50 AM 464 Views
I try *NM* - 17/06/2011 09:57:32 AM 452 Views
Take is up the ass or you are a prude? - 16/06/2011 04:09:54 PM 1133 Views
You didn't read the list very well. - 16/06/2011 07:08:19 PM 956 Views
It appears I didn't read it very well. I apologize for that - 16/06/2011 10:16:02 PM 910 Views
No problems. - 16/06/2011 10:57:46 PM 852 Views
Re: The idea that If it hurts it's not being done right - Not neccessarily. - 17/06/2011 01:13:18 AM 959 Views
It just requires more preparation. - 17/06/2011 04:49:52 AM 1323 Views
I have to say, I actually find this list reasonable. - 16/06/2011 04:35:40 PM 929 Views
I agree - 16/06/2011 05:10:07 PM 845 Views
Exactly! It's the "nexus of activity" sort of idea. - 16/06/2011 07:18:33 PM 789 Views
If I weren't such a prude (3), I would post this list to facebook. - 16/06/2011 05:08:05 PM 1017 Views
In other words, you aren't a prude on that scale. - 16/06/2011 07:20:35 PM 819 Views
Eh - 16/06/2011 08:17:31 PM 1024 Views
You mixed up prudishness and sexual compatibility with you - 16/06/2011 05:21:31 PM 1034 Views
This. *NM* - 16/06/2011 06:18:41 PM 498 Views
No I didn't. - 16/06/2011 07:14:27 PM 934 Views
Calling my response a knee jerk reaction is just silly, and in itself, a knee jerk response. - 16/06/2011 07:38:28 PM 1140 Views
Okay. I'm going to just stop replying. - 16/06/2011 08:28:02 PM 733 Views
Your world view is just too self referential to be - 16/06/2011 08:36:39 PM 953 Views
As is yours. *NM* - 16/06/2011 08:44:10 PM 342 Views
That makes no sense. You have the narrower view. *NM* - 16/06/2011 09:07:37 PM 451 Views
So you say. *NM* - 16/06/2011 09:09:21 PM 439 Views
Question - 16/06/2011 07:42:37 PM 939 Views
Ha Ha, who cares about the guy? It is only female sexuality that is on trial. - 16/06/2011 08:06:33 PM 866 Views
That is an incorrect assumption. - 16/06/2011 08:30:08 PM 894 Views
Awww you didn't take my bait! - 16/06/2011 08:44:16 PM 818 Views
There's very little I haven't been willing to do - 16/06/2011 08:52:31 PM 926 Views
Hehehe, But *I* recall it! - 16/06/2011 09:22:40 PM 965 Views
Wait, I think I know what you're talking about. - 16/06/2011 09:27:20 PM 923 Views
Damn, I was going to guess "in a coffin". - 16/06/2011 09:31:36 PM 1125 Views
Seriously? - 16/06/2011 09:50:20 PM 944 Views
The girl was never a girlfriend or a sexual partner. - 16/06/2011 11:06:38 PM 928 Views
I'm reminded of an ex of mine - 16/06/2011 08:32:34 PM 745 Views
That's really awful. - 16/06/2011 09:16:33 PM 1026 Views
Of course. - 16/06/2011 08:29:11 PM 785 Views
Fair enough *NM* - 17/06/2011 07:20:38 PM 452 Views
THIS!! LISTEN!! the woman is * lightbulb* speaking from a woman's perspective. - 14/06/2011 02:52:26 AM 1039 Views
Your way out of line - 14/06/2011 02:55:46 AM 828 Views
Wondering why we're still single, are we? Try a minimum of politeness first. - 14/06/2011 03:21:15 AM 787 Views
What B/c i sank you YOUR level? Piss Off. AS if I give 2 shits what you think about me. - 16/06/2011 02:19:04 AM 1117 Views
I read this. - 16/06/2011 03:40:51 AM 1008 Views
The name-calling is uncalled for, Rebecca - 16/06/2011 11:10:04 AM 980 Views
Given the vehemence of your response, you do care. - 16/06/2011 03:19:42 PM 1012 Views
I appreciate the support, - 14/06/2011 10:37:20 PM 983 Views
Your journal entry is revealing. You sound bitter and hurt. I hope you find the healing you need. - 15/06/2011 01:40:23 AM 988 Views
You know what? not called for. *NM* - 15/06/2011 02:05:14 PM 321 Views
Why not? - 15/06/2011 11:59:36 PM 892 Views
The first portion of what you said, isn't yours to say. - 16/06/2011 03:43:57 PM 710 Views
I'm with Anastasia on this. - 16/06/2011 06:39:56 PM 1041 Views
Re: It's funny - 14/06/2011 03:50:13 AM 1009 Views
Re: It's funny - 14/06/2011 10:28:32 PM 1059 Views
On a completely unrelated note - 14/06/2011 11:03:58 PM 932 Views
Re: On a completely unrelated note - 14/06/2011 11:14:18 PM 963 Views
Bummer *NM* - 14/06/2011 11:20:24 PM 428 Views
TMJ is right. - 15/06/2011 02:11:57 PM 994 Views
Re: TMJ is right. - 16/06/2011 12:22:10 AM 1058 Views
Yes. - 16/06/2011 03:41:05 PM 872 Views
Re: Yes. - 17/06/2011 01:51:11 AM 808 Views
Gee thanks. - 17/06/2011 05:04:37 AM 1253 Views
Didn't suit you. - 18/06/2011 12:58:53 AM 1002 Views
On a totally unrelated note... - 15/06/2011 01:43:23 AM 947 Views
Excuse me while I go hit something. A journalism major perhaps. *NM* - 12/06/2011 09:09:26 PM 441 Views
Stunning rebuttal!!! *NM* - 12/06/2011 10:07:39 PM 328 Views
Theres nothing there I really need to refute.... - 13/06/2011 01:20:43 AM 871 Views
Well, thanks for contributing nothing to the discussion. *NM* - 13/06/2011 04:41:56 AM 335 Views
Is there a reason you feel the need to jump up my ass? *NM* - 13/06/2011 05:16:53 AM 489 Views
Your winning personality? - 13/06/2011 03:45:09 PM 964 Views
I'd say 'endearing' is the proper term. - 13/06/2011 10:43:01 PM 894 Views
Nice name new. - 15/06/2011 01:44:25 AM 918 Views
Wow. Interesting. *NM* - 13/06/2011 07:04:08 AM 421 Views
Giving up porn (a male perspective) - 13/06/2011 04:29:52 PM 1014 Views
Thanks for sharing. ^_^ *NM* - 13/06/2011 09:05:51 PM 482 Views
Re: It's a sexy topic, but all these generalizations are becoming wet blankets. - 14/06/2011 02:13:31 AM 1000 Views
I think you are spot on with the seal theory. - 14/06/2011 05:16:59 PM 1053 Views
[something less snarky] - 14/06/2011 10:17:18 PM 1090 Views
Re: What? - 15/06/2011 12:01:36 AM 1049 Views
Re: What? - 15/06/2011 12:20:56 AM 1006 Views
Re: How come your 1st edit is not at all what was originally posted? - 15/06/2011 03:06:02 AM 1024 Views
About time to reevaluate Tom's claims, I think, eh? *NM* - 15/06/2011 03:59:31 AM 458 Views
my turn: what? - 15/06/2011 04:12:51 AM 1066 Views
Wow, well speaking as a prude... - 14/06/2011 03:36:23 AM 1029 Views
Funny how so many fault lines rupture in the comments to posts like this - 14/06/2011 04:23:23 AM 1125 Views
To quote Cat Valente: - 14/06/2011 04:37:39 AM 850 Views
It is a two-way street, unfortunately - 14/06/2011 04:40:58 AM 965 Views
so the problem is southern women are just not good enough for you? - 14/06/2011 01:51:30 PM 948 Views
No, more like not similar enough - 14/06/2011 04:13:52 PM 971 Views
Some people aren't cut out to be in a relationship - 14/06/2011 04:25:09 PM 989 Views
True - 14/06/2011 04:56:05 PM 813 Views
As someone who has never lived under the same roof more than five consecutive years - 14/06/2011 06:06:10 PM 1063 Views
Job. Always a job matter. - 14/06/2011 11:22:33 PM 1113 Views
Try south Texas, you may not notice you are not in South America - 15/06/2011 02:44:21 AM 887 Views
Ha! I used to live in the metro Miami area, so I know what you mean - 15/06/2011 03:20:41 AM 953 Views
sweet jesus you are crazy - 15/06/2011 04:38:28 AM 806 Views
Maybe, but it certainly drains me of being involved much elsewhere - 15/06/2011 05:29:21 AM 1032 Views
Why all this vitriol? - 14/06/2011 05:19:47 AM 936 Views
It started there here: - 14/06/2011 01:06:32 PM 1003 Views
Tom made an untenable comment - 14/06/2011 01:21:06 PM 910 Views
Book clubs are scary places - 14/06/2011 05:03:03 PM 726 Views
Chocolate, wine, books. Also tea? - 14/06/2011 09:00:06 PM 1037 Views
Maybe without the wine? - 15/06/2011 05:06:53 AM 912 Views
I don't feel particularly vitriolic. - 14/06/2011 10:18:44 PM 937 Views
I didn't mean you... - 15/06/2011 05:24:56 AM 934 Views
We haven't had one of these in a while! - 14/06/2011 06:36:18 AM 975 Views
Agreed. I laughed, I cried, it was touching. *NM* - 14/06/2011 08:49:40 AM 328 Views
This post got more abused than a nasty Japanese bukkake! Lol. *NM* - 15/06/2011 10:07:04 AM 517 Views
I started to read this but got bored and looked at porn. - 14/06/2011 03:15:28 PM 990 Views
Re: I started to read this but got bored and looked at porn. - 14/06/2011 03:27:51 PM 1048 Views
Oh yeah. - 14/06/2011 03:31:42 PM 1025 Views
- 14/06/2011 08:48:55 PM 1023 Views
I think I've read pretty much all of it. I think it's better than porn. Well, bad porn. - 14/06/2011 11:01:20 PM 996 Views
that was funny *NM* - 15/06/2011 02:42:13 AM 331 Views
Bad porn is the worst! - 15/06/2011 02:13:59 PM 847 Views
You know what Tom, it occurs to me that this is very American thinking. - 15/06/2011 03:07:00 AM 927 Views
Actually, my Russian guy friends tend to be more vehement than I am on this point. - 15/06/2011 05:12:51 AM 1251 Views
Huh, could it be because most Russians are atheist? - 15/06/2011 05:36:47 AM 1035 Views
That could be a major part of it - 16/06/2011 09:06:21 PM 883 Views
Ah, you've seen EuroTrip, too. *NM* - 17/06/2011 01:52:27 AM 442 Views

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