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I think it's impossible for me to judge their future status without knowing more about them LadyLorraine Send a noteboard - 19/04/2011 07:22:32 PM
No couple is exactly what the textbooks would like to compare to. the end result of these events will entirely depend on this couple's dynamics between themselves, and with her family, as well as the priorities of the individuals involved.

On one hand, this could be her disengaging from a potential fight (not him, just the fight) because she has decided that "in-law time" is less important than "not arguing". The impact of this depends on whether this is just because she hates arguing, OR whether their particular situation makes "in-law time", even on holidays, relatively trivial in the greater scheme of things. If it's not IMPORTANT for either party for him to go, then avoiding the argument makes sense. Why fuss over something that doesn't matter that much to you?

However, if it is important for her that he goes and she has "given up" trying to get him to spend time with her family on a holiday, that bodes worse for their relationship. I can't say whether it will end in break up, but it will certainly lead to fighting and tension.

If this is a compromise over something relatively unimportant to her, then I think it would be a positive development indicating successful communication and compromise in a relationship.

If it's her giving up on something important to her, I think it is an indicator of a poor prognosis.
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Relationship - positive development or signs of eventual break down? - 19/04/2011 08:48:26 AM 1801 Views
Helene, I want to give you an answer but... - 19/04/2011 08:58:45 AM 956 Views
Fair enough - 19/04/2011 10:01:51 AM 908 Views
inlaws are not always bad - 19/04/2011 02:10:18 PM 871 Views
I spend way more time with my in-laws than with my own family. - 19/04/2011 02:17:41 PM 862 Views
I'm like this with my future in-laws too. *NM* - 19/04/2011 04:47:05 PM 422 Views
I think they are right - 19/04/2011 10:20:39 AM 1085 Views
I see your point - 19/04/2011 10:42:51 AM 1038 Views
Re: I think they are right - 19/04/2011 01:59:57 PM 916 Views
I think that's an unfair assumption. - 19/04/2011 02:16:54 PM 845 Views
What he said about his wife's mother - 19/04/2011 02:59:32 PM 1011 Views
No offense... - 19/04/2011 02:35:53 PM 996 Views
yes but have you found such a thing? - 19/04/2011 03:05:35 PM 917 Views
For now I have *NM* - 19/04/2011 03:08:17 PM 457 Views
how long has it been? *NM* - 19/04/2011 03:16:32 PM 433 Views
Don't try to corrupt me with your long term pessimism - 19/04/2011 03:34:39 PM 862 Views
sadly I seem attracted to the crazies *NM* - 19/04/2011 04:08:14 PM 424 Views
Could be either - 19/04/2011 10:30:50 AM 956 Views
True enough... - 19/04/2011 10:44:28 AM 936 Views
My opinion is the latter. - 19/04/2011 01:55:00 PM 941 Views
He definitely has a point about realistic expectations - 19/04/2011 01:56:49 PM 915 Views
Re: He definitely has a point about realistic expectations - 19/04/2011 02:07:34 PM 878 Views
Re: He definitely has a point about realistic expectations - 19/04/2011 02:13:25 PM 1019 Views
I should have read this first. - 19/04/2011 02:25:16 PM 962 Views
Re: He definitely has a point about realistic expectations - 19/04/2011 02:23:14 PM 928 Views
The fact that you are referring to a fiancé and comparing it to wife says a lot - 19/04/2011 02:09:27 PM 1022 Views
To be fair, me and my fiance have been together for about as long as they have - 19/04/2011 02:57:03 PM 872 Views
I don't know about everyone but things changed when we got married - 19/04/2011 03:16:11 PM 914 Views
How did things change? - 19/04/2011 04:14:56 PM 928 Views
Like I said I can only speak for myself - 19/04/2011 04:54:04 PM 932 Views
There's already a 10 year old in the picture for us - 19/04/2011 06:52:44 PM 861 Views
My husband and I don't understand why people say this. - 20/04/2011 01:03:31 AM 971 Views
I did say I was only speaking for myself - 20/04/2011 01:58:45 PM 902 Views
I know. - 20/04/2011 09:01:11 PM 1135 Views
Sorry for some reason I thought you had just got married. - 20/04/2011 09:52:24 PM 1375 Views
Good luck to them! *NM* - 22/04/2011 04:25:38 AM 413 Views
From the information that you have presented... - 19/04/2011 03:50:19 PM 1066 Views
Could go either way. - 19/04/2011 04:36:02 PM 870 Views
I get the impression that it's more about her forming toward him than vice versa - 19/04/2011 06:56:37 PM 871 Views
Giving up is one thing, growing past is another. - 19/04/2011 10:00:55 PM 830 Views
Oh, to be fair, he's the friend and she's the wife - 20/04/2011 08:43:12 AM 798 Views
I don't necessarily think it will end in a breakup or divorce. - 19/04/2011 04:44:11 PM 859 Views
I think this is about priorities. - 20/04/2011 01:07:20 AM 1018 Views
Our priorities may shift over time, too. We're still very young and more tied to our families. - 20/04/2011 03:09:54 AM 861 Views
Even when younger, I was independent. - 20/04/2011 05:29:59 AM 765 Views
*nods* - 20/04/2011 06:25:29 AM 943 Views
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Not the former for sure, and maybe not the latter. - 19/04/2011 05:55:03 PM 916 Views
I think it's impossible for me to judge their future status without knowing more about them - 19/04/2011 07:22:32 PM 885 Views
Can't tell. - 19/04/2011 10:04:27 PM 833 Views
I'm with the 'can't tell' crowd. - 19/04/2011 11:37:17 PM 1142 Views
hell, or she could just not care too much at all - 19/04/2011 11:43:21 PM 853 Views
I'm leaning more towards your interpretation. *NM* - 20/04/2011 02:15:22 AM 389 Views
I'm with you on this. *NM* - 20/04/2011 10:00:41 AM 438 Views
*sigh* - 20/04/2011 09:25:02 PM 977 Views
Re: I mean, it's not good. *NM* - 20/04/2011 11:50:21 PM 380 Views

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