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No offense... ironclad Send a noteboard - 19/04/2011 02:35:53 PM
To stick to this example, why would couples have to do everything together anyway? She wants to see her mum, let her. He doesn't, so he can stay watch football. I think they handle it well. At least if she doesn't really hold a grudge and as long as there are instances where he does indeed go out of his way to please her.

There is a difference between "an afternoon at mum's", and "Easter Sunday dinner". If I were to decline a holiday dinner like that with my wife, there would be Hell to pay because holiday dinners are important to her. I don't know if that's the case with this guy's wife or not - but I'd assume it would be or she wouldn't have asked in the first place.


...but see, I prefer relationships where there is no Hell to pay from either side for anything ;)
*MySmiley*

You mustn't be afraid to dream a little bigger, darling.
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Relationship - positive development or signs of eventual break down? Helene - 19/04/2011 08:48:26 AM 1804 Views
Helene, I want to give you an answer but... Urza - 19/04/2011 08:58:45 AM 960 Views
Fair enough Helene - 19/04/2011 10:01:51 AM 911 Views
Not all inlaws are bad, you know, I prefer some of my inlaws to my own family. *NM* Macharius - 19/04/2011 01:56:03 PM 446 Views
inlaws are not always bad random thoughts - 19/04/2011 02:10:18 PM 873 Views
I spend way more time with my in-laws than with my own family. Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 02:17:41 PM 864 Views
I'm like this with my future in-laws too. *NM* Clover - 19/04/2011 04:47:05 PM 423 Views
I think they are right ironclad - 19/04/2011 10:20:39 AM 1089 Views
I see your point Helene - 19/04/2011 10:42:51 AM 1041 Views
Re: I think they are right Macharius - 19/04/2011 01:59:57 PM 919 Views
I think that's an unfair assumption. Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 02:16:54 PM 848 Views
What he said about his wife's mother Helene - 19/04/2011 02:59:32 PM 1015 Views
Ew. I would have a problem with that too. Something about that attitude makes me dig in my heels. Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:37:38 AM 769 Views
No offense... ironclad - 19/04/2011 02:35:53 PM 1001 Views
yes but have you found such a thing? random thoughts - 19/04/2011 03:05:35 PM 921 Views
For now I have *NM* ironclad - 19/04/2011 03:08:17 PM 459 Views
how long has it been? *NM* random thoughts - 19/04/2011 03:16:32 PM 434 Views
Don't try to corrupt me with your long term pessimism ironclad - 19/04/2011 03:34:39 PM 867 Views
sadly I seem attracted to the crazies *NM* random thoughts - 19/04/2011 04:08:14 PM 428 Views
Yes. But it didn't start out like that. Took years to chip away all our rough edges. Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:40:29 AM 946 Views
Could be either snoopcester - 19/04/2011 10:30:50 AM 962 Views
True enough... Helene - 19/04/2011 10:44:28 AM 940 Views
My opinion is the latter. Macharius - 19/04/2011 01:55:00 PM 946 Views
He definitely has a point about realistic expectations Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 01:56:49 PM 918 Views
Re: He definitely has a point about realistic expectations Macharius - 19/04/2011 02:07:34 PM 884 Views
Re: He definitely has a point about realistic expectations snoopcester - 19/04/2011 02:13:25 PM 1021 Views
I should have read this first. Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 02:25:16 PM 965 Views
Re: He definitely has a point about realistic expectations Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 02:23:14 PM 931 Views
You don't strike me as the "screeching-howler-monkey" type to begin with. *NM* Macharius - 19/04/2011 03:33:41 PM 429 Views
I love just about everything about you Sareitha. Good answers all. *NM* Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:26:34 AM 397 Views
I translated "I will think about it" as a secret but obvious code for. "I don't really want to but Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:34:36 AM 1043 Views
that's what I would have meant if I said "I'll think about it" *NM* LadyLorraine - 20/04/2011 02:00:33 AM 403 Views
The fact that you are referring to a fiancé and comparing it to wife says a lot random thoughts - 19/04/2011 02:09:27 PM 1024 Views
To be fair, me and my fiance have been together for about as long as they have Helene - 19/04/2011 02:57:03 PM 876 Views
I don't know about everyone but things changed when we got married random thoughts - 19/04/2011 03:16:11 PM 920 Views
How did things change? Helene - 19/04/2011 04:14:56 PM 931 Views
Like I said I can only speak for myself random thoughts - 19/04/2011 04:54:04 PM 936 Views
There's already a 10 year old in the picture for us Helene - 19/04/2011 06:52:44 PM 865 Views
My husband and I don't understand why people say this. rebelaessedai - 20/04/2011 01:03:31 AM 976 Views
I did say I was only speaking for myself random thoughts - 20/04/2011 01:58:45 PM 907 Views
I know. rebelaessedai - 20/04/2011 09:01:11 PM 1140 Views
Sorry for some reason I thought you had just got married. random thoughts - 20/04/2011 09:52:24 PM 1378 Views
Good luck to them! *NM* rebelaessedai - 22/04/2011 04:25:38 AM 414 Views
Re: The fact that you are referring to a fiancé and comparing it to wife says a lot Tihs Tnuc - 19/04/2011 04:34:34 PM 836 Views
From the information that you have presented... Jeordam - 19/04/2011 03:50:19 PM 1070 Views
I am in agreement with you, and I'm not particularly Christian. Helene - 19/04/2011 04:11:57 PM 855 Views
Which is sad (not the agreement, but their potential future) Jeordam - 19/04/2011 06:29:47 PM 934 Views
Oh yes... I'm of course not sure. I can be way off base :-) Let's hope I am. Helene - 19/04/2011 06:55:13 PM 898 Views
Could go either way. Dannymac - 19/04/2011 04:36:02 PM 874 Views
I get the impression that it's more about her forming toward him than vice versa Helene - 19/04/2011 06:56:37 PM 879 Views
Giving up is one thing, growing past is another. Dannymac - 19/04/2011 10:00:55 PM 833 Views
Oh, to be fair, he's the friend and she's the wife Helene - 20/04/2011 08:43:12 AM 800 Views
I don't necessarily think it will end in a breakup or divorce. Clover - 19/04/2011 04:44:11 PM 862 Views
I think you are 100% right about having a good realtionship with your spouse's family random thoughts - 19/04/2011 05:07:12 PM 874 Views
I think this is about priorities. rebelaessedai - 20/04/2011 01:07:20 AM 1019 Views
Our priorities may shift over time, too. We're still very young and more tied to our families. Clover - 20/04/2011 03:09:54 AM 864 Views
Even when younger, I was independent. rebelaessedai - 20/04/2011 05:29:59 AM 769 Views
*nods* Clover - 20/04/2011 06:25:29 AM 949 Views
rebelaessedai - 22/04/2011 04:29:32 AM 1153 Views
Not the former for sure, and maybe not the latter. Palatine - 19/04/2011 05:55:03 PM 920 Views
I think it's impossible for me to judge their future status without knowing more about them LadyLorraine - 19/04/2011 07:22:32 PM 886 Views
Can't tell. nossy - 19/04/2011 10:04:27 PM 838 Views
I'm with the 'can't tell' crowd. Antigone - 19/04/2011 11:37:17 PM 1145 Views
hell, or she could just not care too much at all LadyLorraine - 19/04/2011 11:43:21 PM 858 Views
What you said in the original question wouldn't neccessarily mean much to me either way. Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:56:55 AM 874 Views
It's not all out "she's worthless", it's more like "she's a bit silly with all her wishes" Helene - 20/04/2011 08:46:49 AM 858 Views
That would still be a deal breaker for me. Tashmere - 20/04/2011 11:49:09 PM 865 Views
I'm leaning more towards your interpretation. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 20/04/2011 02:15:22 AM 390 Views
I don't know. *NM* (I feel bad for the 20 people who viewed this message- my apologies) Vivien - 20/04/2011 04:36:13 AM 917 Views
I'm with you on this. *NM* Camilla - 20/04/2011 10:00:41 AM 439 Views
*sigh* Yunalesca - 20/04/2011 09:25:02 PM 982 Views
Re: I mean, it's not good. *NM* Gaps - 20/04/2011 11:50:21 PM 382 Views
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