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Re: He definitely has a point about realistic expectations Sareitha Sedai Send a noteboard - 19/04/2011 02:23:14 PM
It might mean more to him not to have to go than it does to her to have him go (if that makes sense)

It made sense to me. ;)


Oh good :D

My only question there is if it was so important to him to not go, why didn't he say so instead of going with the cop-out "I'll think about it" line? Would you not be more willing to accept an honest answer you didn't like than for your husband to try and dodge the bullet entirely? I know my wife would, with me.


I would absolutely prefer it. But if every time I got an honest answer I went all screeching-howler-monkey on him about it, I couldn't really blame him for trying to avoid that while still not committing to doing something he really didn't want to do.

I have a feeling I'm getting too involved with this discussion, though: as you said, only the man and his wife truly know the status of their relationship. But on the other hand, I'm surrounded by middle-aged female co-workers who gripe about their husbands all the time, and how clueless they typically are. ;) :P


Ugh, I can't stand husband bashing (or wife bashing for that matter, but the former seems much more common). I always have to bite back the "if he's that awful why on earth are you staying with him" response because I understand it's a typical female social bonding exercise. It's just one I abhor and refuse to participate in.
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Relationship - positive development or signs of eventual break down? - 19/04/2011 08:48:26 AM 1801 Views
Helene, I want to give you an answer but... - 19/04/2011 08:58:45 AM 957 Views
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inlaws are not always bad - 19/04/2011 02:10:18 PM 871 Views
I spend way more time with my in-laws than with my own family. - 19/04/2011 02:17:41 PM 863 Views
I'm like this with my future in-laws too. *NM* - 19/04/2011 04:47:05 PM 423 Views
I think they are right - 19/04/2011 10:20:39 AM 1086 Views
I see your point - 19/04/2011 10:42:51 AM 1039 Views
Re: I think they are right - 19/04/2011 01:59:57 PM 917 Views
I think that's an unfair assumption. - 19/04/2011 02:16:54 PM 846 Views
What he said about his wife's mother - 19/04/2011 02:59:32 PM 1011 Views
No offense... - 19/04/2011 02:35:53 PM 997 Views
yes but have you found such a thing? - 19/04/2011 03:05:35 PM 917 Views
For now I have *NM* - 19/04/2011 03:08:17 PM 458 Views
how long has it been? *NM* - 19/04/2011 03:16:32 PM 433 Views
Don't try to corrupt me with your long term pessimism - 19/04/2011 03:34:39 PM 863 Views
sadly I seem attracted to the crazies *NM* - 19/04/2011 04:08:14 PM 425 Views
Could be either - 19/04/2011 10:30:50 AM 957 Views
True enough... - 19/04/2011 10:44:28 AM 937 Views
My opinion is the latter. - 19/04/2011 01:55:00 PM 941 Views
He definitely has a point about realistic expectations - 19/04/2011 01:56:49 PM 915 Views
Re: He definitely has a point about realistic expectations - 19/04/2011 02:07:34 PM 879 Views
Re: He definitely has a point about realistic expectations - 19/04/2011 02:13:25 PM 1019 Views
I should have read this first. - 19/04/2011 02:25:16 PM 963 Views
Re: He definitely has a point about realistic expectations - 19/04/2011 02:23:14 PM 929 Views
The fact that you are referring to a fiancé and comparing it to wife says a lot - 19/04/2011 02:09:27 PM 1023 Views
To be fair, me and my fiance have been together for about as long as they have - 19/04/2011 02:57:03 PM 873 Views
I don't know about everyone but things changed when we got married - 19/04/2011 03:16:11 PM 914 Views
How did things change? - 19/04/2011 04:14:56 PM 929 Views
Like I said I can only speak for myself - 19/04/2011 04:54:04 PM 932 Views
There's already a 10 year old in the picture for us - 19/04/2011 06:52:44 PM 861 Views
My husband and I don't understand why people say this. - 20/04/2011 01:03:31 AM 972 Views
I did say I was only speaking for myself - 20/04/2011 01:58:45 PM 902 Views
I know. - 20/04/2011 09:01:11 PM 1136 Views
Sorry for some reason I thought you had just got married. - 20/04/2011 09:52:24 PM 1375 Views
Good luck to them! *NM* - 22/04/2011 04:25:38 AM 414 Views
From the information that you have presented... - 19/04/2011 03:50:19 PM 1067 Views
Could go either way. - 19/04/2011 04:36:02 PM 871 Views
I get the impression that it's more about her forming toward him than vice versa - 19/04/2011 06:56:37 PM 872 Views
Giving up is one thing, growing past is another. - 19/04/2011 10:00:55 PM 830 Views
Oh, to be fair, he's the friend and she's the wife - 20/04/2011 08:43:12 AM 799 Views
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I think this is about priorities. - 20/04/2011 01:07:20 AM 1019 Views
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Even when younger, I was independent. - 20/04/2011 05:29:59 AM 766 Views
*nods* - 20/04/2011 06:25:29 AM 944 Views
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Not the former for sure, and maybe not the latter. - 19/04/2011 05:55:03 PM 917 Views
Can't tell. - 19/04/2011 10:04:27 PM 833 Views
I'm with the 'can't tell' crowd. - 19/04/2011 11:37:17 PM 1142 Views
hell, or she could just not care too much at all - 19/04/2011 11:43:21 PM 854 Views
I'm leaning more towards your interpretation. *NM* - 20/04/2011 02:15:22 AM 390 Views
I'm with you on this. *NM* - 20/04/2011 10:00:41 AM 439 Views
*sigh* - 20/04/2011 09:25:02 PM 977 Views
Re: I mean, it's not good. *NM* - 20/04/2011 11:50:21 PM 381 Views

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