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The fact that you are referring to a fiancé and comparing it to wife says a lot random thoughts Send a noteboard - 19/04/2011 02:09:27 PM
I really can't comment on the quality of either relationship from the little bit here but I can tell you there is a huge difference between a girlfriend or fiancé and a wife. The first few years I was with my wife we did everything together but we are not mirror images of each other and eventually you start to realize there are things you want to do separately. I enjoy canoing but my wife finds it boring. So sometime I talk her into going but most of the time I go alone or with my sons. She likes church and I am agnostic so I only go if my daughter in singing in the choir that day. Not spending Easter together seems a little odd but if you are not very religious and you don't have kids it really isn't much more important than groundhog day.
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Relationship - positive development or signs of eventual break down? Helene - 19/04/2011 08:48:26 AM 1903 Views
Helene, I want to give you an answer but... Urza - 19/04/2011 08:58:45 AM 1045 Views
Fair enough Helene - 19/04/2011 10:01:51 AM 999 Views
Not all inlaws are bad, you know, I prefer some of my inlaws to my own family. *NM* Macharius - 19/04/2011 01:56:03 PM 484 Views
inlaws are not always bad random thoughts - 19/04/2011 02:10:18 PM 957 Views
I spend way more time with my in-laws than with my own family. Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 02:17:41 PM 949 Views
I'm like this with my future in-laws too. *NM* Clover - 19/04/2011 04:47:05 PM 463 Views
I think they are right ironclad - 19/04/2011 10:20:39 AM 1178 Views
I see your point Helene - 19/04/2011 10:42:51 AM 1137 Views
Re: I think they are right Macharius - 19/04/2011 01:59:57 PM 1006 Views
I think that's an unfair assumption. Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 02:16:54 PM 932 Views
What he said about his wife's mother Helene - 19/04/2011 02:59:32 PM 1105 Views
Ew. I would have a problem with that too. Something about that attitude makes me dig in my heels. Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:37:38 AM 854 Views
No offense... ironclad - 19/04/2011 02:35:53 PM 1086 Views
yes but have you found such a thing? random thoughts - 19/04/2011 03:05:35 PM 1011 Views
For now I have *NM* ironclad - 19/04/2011 03:08:17 PM 495 Views
how long has it been? *NM* random thoughts - 19/04/2011 03:16:32 PM 470 Views
Don't try to corrupt me with your long term pessimism ironclad - 19/04/2011 03:34:39 PM 962 Views
sadly I seem attracted to the crazies *NM* random thoughts - 19/04/2011 04:08:14 PM 464 Views
Yes. But it didn't start out like that. Took years to chip away all our rough edges. Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:40:29 AM 1026 Views
Could be either snoopcester - 19/04/2011 10:30:50 AM 1058 Views
True enough... Helene - 19/04/2011 10:44:28 AM 1020 Views
My opinion is the latter. Macharius - 19/04/2011 01:55:00 PM 1029 Views
He definitely has a point about realistic expectations Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 01:56:49 PM 1012 Views
Re: He definitely has a point about realistic expectations Macharius - 19/04/2011 02:07:34 PM 993 Views
Re: He definitely has a point about realistic expectations snoopcester - 19/04/2011 02:13:25 PM 1114 Views
I should have read this first. Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 02:25:16 PM 1044 Views
Re: He definitely has a point about realistic expectations Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 02:23:14 PM 1025 Views
You don't strike me as the "screeching-howler-monkey" type to begin with. *NM* Macharius - 19/04/2011 03:33:41 PM 468 Views
I love just about everything about you Sareitha. Good answers all. *NM* Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:26:34 AM 440 Views
I translated "I will think about it" as a secret but obvious code for. "I don't really want to but Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:34:36 AM 1132 Views
that's what I would have meant if I said "I'll think about it" *NM* LadyLorraine - 20/04/2011 02:00:33 AM 427 Views
The fact that you are referring to a fiancé and comparing it to wife says a lot random thoughts - 19/04/2011 02:09:27 PM 1120 Views
To be fair, me and my fiance have been together for about as long as they have Helene - 19/04/2011 02:57:03 PM 961 Views
I don't know about everyone but things changed when we got married random thoughts - 19/04/2011 03:16:11 PM 999 Views
How did things change? Helene - 19/04/2011 04:14:56 PM 999 Views
Like I said I can only speak for myself random thoughts - 19/04/2011 04:54:04 PM 1033 Views
There's already a 10 year old in the picture for us Helene - 19/04/2011 06:52:44 PM 958 Views
My husband and I don't understand why people say this. rebelaessedai - 20/04/2011 01:03:31 AM 1076 Views
I did say I was only speaking for myself random thoughts - 20/04/2011 01:58:45 PM 1014 Views
I know. rebelaessedai - 20/04/2011 09:01:11 PM 1230 Views
Sorry for some reason I thought you had just got married. random thoughts - 20/04/2011 09:52:24 PM 1464 Views
Good luck to them! *NM* rebelaessedai - 22/04/2011 04:25:38 AM 452 Views
Re: The fact that you are referring to a fiancé and comparing it to wife says a lot Tihs Tnuc - 19/04/2011 04:34:34 PM 925 Views
From the information that you have presented... Jeordam - 19/04/2011 03:50:19 PM 1188 Views
I am in agreement with you, and I'm not particularly Christian. Helene - 19/04/2011 04:11:57 PM 937 Views
Which is sad (not the agreement, but their potential future) Jeordam - 19/04/2011 06:29:47 PM 1010 Views
Oh yes... I'm of course not sure. I can be way off base :-) Let's hope I am. Helene - 19/04/2011 06:55:13 PM 992 Views
Could go either way. Dannymac - 19/04/2011 04:36:02 PM 966 Views
I get the impression that it's more about her forming toward him than vice versa Helene - 19/04/2011 06:56:37 PM 981 Views
Giving up is one thing, growing past is another. Dannymac - 19/04/2011 10:00:55 PM 930 Views
Oh, to be fair, he's the friend and she's the wife Helene - 20/04/2011 08:43:12 AM 898 Views
I don't necessarily think it will end in a breakup or divorce. Clover - 19/04/2011 04:44:11 PM 953 Views
I think you are 100% right about having a good realtionship with your spouse's family random thoughts - 19/04/2011 05:07:12 PM 964 Views
I think this is about priorities. rebelaessedai - 20/04/2011 01:07:20 AM 1109 Views
Our priorities may shift over time, too. We're still very young and more tied to our families. Clover - 20/04/2011 03:09:54 AM 915 Views
Even when younger, I was independent. rebelaessedai - 20/04/2011 05:29:59 AM 852 Views
*nods* Clover - 20/04/2011 06:25:29 AM 1037 Views
rebelaessedai - 22/04/2011 04:29:32 AM 1238 Views
Not the former for sure, and maybe not the latter. Palatine - 19/04/2011 05:55:03 PM 1014 Views
I think it's impossible for me to judge their future status without knowing more about them LadyLorraine - 19/04/2011 07:22:32 PM 968 Views
Can't tell. nossy - 19/04/2011 10:04:27 PM 931 Views
I'm with the 'can't tell' crowd. Antigone - 19/04/2011 11:37:17 PM 1238 Views
hell, or she could just not care too much at all LadyLorraine - 19/04/2011 11:43:21 PM 960 Views
What you said in the original question wouldn't neccessarily mean much to me either way. Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:56:55 AM 986 Views
It's not all out "she's worthless", it's more like "she's a bit silly with all her wishes" Helene - 20/04/2011 08:46:49 AM 951 Views
That would still be a deal breaker for me. Tashmere - 20/04/2011 11:49:09 PM 959 Views
I'm leaning more towards your interpretation. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 20/04/2011 02:15:22 AM 428 Views
I don't know. *NM* (I feel bad for the 20 people who viewed this message- my apologies) Vivien - 20/04/2011 04:36:13 AM 1005 Views
I'm with you on this. *NM* Camilla - 20/04/2011 10:00:41 AM 477 Views
*sigh* Yunalesca - 20/04/2011 09:25:02 PM 1073 Views
Re: I mean, it's not good. *NM* Gaps - 20/04/2011 11:50:21 PM 417 Views
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