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My opinion is the latter. Macharius Send a noteboard - 19/04/2011 01:55:00 PM
When I say "I'll think about it", I really mean "I don't want to, and am wuss-ing out by not providing a definitive answer so I can avoid having a discussion about it in the first place". If I was genuinely unsure, I would discuss it with my wife.

Sharing in what's important with one another is a significant part of a successful relationship in my mind - it certainly is so with my wife and I. His wife made an effort to include him in a family event: her reply that she'd go alone is indicative to me that she's no longer willing to make the effort to include him with what's important to her.
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Relationship - positive development or signs of eventual break down? Helene - 19/04/2011 08:48:26 AM 1801 Views
Helene, I want to give you an answer but... Urza - 19/04/2011 08:58:45 AM 957 Views
Fair enough Helene - 19/04/2011 10:01:51 AM 909 Views
Not all inlaws are bad, you know, I prefer some of my inlaws to my own family. *NM* Macharius - 19/04/2011 01:56:03 PM 446 Views
inlaws are not always bad random thoughts - 19/04/2011 02:10:18 PM 872 Views
I spend way more time with my in-laws than with my own family. Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 02:17:41 PM 863 Views
I'm like this with my future in-laws too. *NM* Clover - 19/04/2011 04:47:05 PM 423 Views
I think they are right ironclad - 19/04/2011 10:20:39 AM 1086 Views
I see your point Helene - 19/04/2011 10:42:51 AM 1039 Views
Re: I think they are right Macharius - 19/04/2011 01:59:57 PM 917 Views
I think that's an unfair assumption. Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 02:16:54 PM 846 Views
What he said about his wife's mother Helene - 19/04/2011 02:59:32 PM 1012 Views
Ew. I would have a problem with that too. Something about that attitude makes me dig in my heels. Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:37:38 AM 767 Views
No offense... ironclad - 19/04/2011 02:35:53 PM 997 Views
yes but have you found such a thing? random thoughts - 19/04/2011 03:05:35 PM 918 Views
For now I have *NM* ironclad - 19/04/2011 03:08:17 PM 458 Views
how long has it been? *NM* random thoughts - 19/04/2011 03:16:32 PM 434 Views
Don't try to corrupt me with your long term pessimism ironclad - 19/04/2011 03:34:39 PM 863 Views
sadly I seem attracted to the crazies *NM* random thoughts - 19/04/2011 04:08:14 PM 425 Views
Yes. But it didn't start out like that. Took years to chip away all our rough edges. Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:40:29 AM 944 Views
Could be either snoopcester - 19/04/2011 10:30:50 AM 957 Views
True enough... Helene - 19/04/2011 10:44:28 AM 937 Views
My opinion is the latter. Macharius - 19/04/2011 01:55:00 PM 942 Views
He definitely has a point about realistic expectations Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 01:56:49 PM 915 Views
Re: He definitely has a point about realistic expectations Macharius - 19/04/2011 02:07:34 PM 879 Views
Re: He definitely has a point about realistic expectations snoopcester - 19/04/2011 02:13:25 PM 1020 Views
I should have read this first. Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 02:25:16 PM 963 Views
Re: He definitely has a point about realistic expectations Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 02:23:14 PM 929 Views
You don't strike me as the "screeching-howler-monkey" type to begin with. *NM* Macharius - 19/04/2011 03:33:41 PM 429 Views
I love just about everything about you Sareitha. Good answers all. *NM* Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:26:34 AM 397 Views
I translated "I will think about it" as a secret but obvious code for. "I don't really want to but Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:34:36 AM 1041 Views
that's what I would have meant if I said "I'll think about it" *NM* LadyLorraine - 20/04/2011 02:00:33 AM 402 Views
The fact that you are referring to a fiancé and comparing it to wife says a lot random thoughts - 19/04/2011 02:09:27 PM 1023 Views
To be fair, me and my fiance have been together for about as long as they have Helene - 19/04/2011 02:57:03 PM 873 Views
I don't know about everyone but things changed when we got married random thoughts - 19/04/2011 03:16:11 PM 915 Views
How did things change? Helene - 19/04/2011 04:14:56 PM 929 Views
Like I said I can only speak for myself random thoughts - 19/04/2011 04:54:04 PM 933 Views
There's already a 10 year old in the picture for us Helene - 19/04/2011 06:52:44 PM 861 Views
My husband and I don't understand why people say this. rebelaessedai - 20/04/2011 01:03:31 AM 972 Views
I did say I was only speaking for myself random thoughts - 20/04/2011 01:58:45 PM 902 Views
I know. rebelaessedai - 20/04/2011 09:01:11 PM 1136 Views
Sorry for some reason I thought you had just got married. random thoughts - 20/04/2011 09:52:24 PM 1376 Views
Good luck to them! *NM* rebelaessedai - 22/04/2011 04:25:38 AM 414 Views
Re: The fact that you are referring to a fiancé and comparing it to wife says a lot Tihs Tnuc - 19/04/2011 04:34:34 PM 834 Views
From the information that you have presented... Jeordam - 19/04/2011 03:50:19 PM 1067 Views
I am in agreement with you, and I'm not particularly Christian. Helene - 19/04/2011 04:11:57 PM 854 Views
Which is sad (not the agreement, but their potential future) Jeordam - 19/04/2011 06:29:47 PM 927 Views
Oh yes... I'm of course not sure. I can be way off base :-) Let's hope I am. Helene - 19/04/2011 06:55:13 PM 897 Views
Could go either way. Dannymac - 19/04/2011 04:36:02 PM 871 Views
I get the impression that it's more about her forming toward him than vice versa Helene - 19/04/2011 06:56:37 PM 872 Views
Giving up is one thing, growing past is another. Dannymac - 19/04/2011 10:00:55 PM 831 Views
Oh, to be fair, he's the friend and she's the wife Helene - 20/04/2011 08:43:12 AM 799 Views
I don't necessarily think it will end in a breakup or divorce. Clover - 19/04/2011 04:44:11 PM 860 Views
I think you are 100% right about having a good realtionship with your spouse's family random thoughts - 19/04/2011 05:07:12 PM 874 Views
I think this is about priorities. rebelaessedai - 20/04/2011 01:07:20 AM 1019 Views
Our priorities may shift over time, too. We're still very young and more tied to our families. Clover - 20/04/2011 03:09:54 AM 862 Views
Even when younger, I was independent. rebelaessedai - 20/04/2011 05:29:59 AM 766 Views
*nods* Clover - 20/04/2011 06:25:29 AM 944 Views
rebelaessedai - 22/04/2011 04:29:32 AM 1149 Views
Not the former for sure, and maybe not the latter. Palatine - 19/04/2011 05:55:03 PM 917 Views
I think it's impossible for me to judge their future status without knowing more about them LadyLorraine - 19/04/2011 07:22:32 PM 885 Views
Can't tell. nossy - 19/04/2011 10:04:27 PM 834 Views
I'm with the 'can't tell' crowd. Antigone - 19/04/2011 11:37:17 PM 1143 Views
hell, or she could just not care too much at all LadyLorraine - 19/04/2011 11:43:21 PM 854 Views
What you said in the original question wouldn't neccessarily mean much to me either way. Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:56:55 AM 870 Views
It's not all out "she's worthless", it's more like "she's a bit silly with all her wishes" Helene - 20/04/2011 08:46:49 AM 856 Views
That would still be a deal breaker for me. Tashmere - 20/04/2011 11:49:09 PM 864 Views
I'm leaning more towards your interpretation. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 20/04/2011 02:15:22 AM 390 Views
I don't know. *NM* (I feel bad for the 20 people who viewed this message- my apologies) Vivien - 20/04/2011 04:36:13 AM 915 Views
I'm with you on this. *NM* Camilla - 20/04/2011 10:00:41 AM 439 Views
*sigh* Yunalesca - 20/04/2011 09:25:02 PM 977 Views
Re: I mean, it's not good. *NM* Gaps - 20/04/2011 11:50:21 PM 381 Views
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