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I asked my fiancé on a day I'd planned for quite a few months, but then ruined a couple of weeks Helene Send a noteboard - 04/04/2011 03:20:41 PM
beforehand. Long story. He already knew I was going to ask him by then... so I just asked him in the morning after sex.

Does one say: "Will you marry me?" like in the films, or do people rather say: "Do you want to be engaged?". Because if it's the former, then I'd find it awkward not to set a date soon after. And if one of the two comes up with a date, how do things proceed from there? I dunno, sounds odd.


I asked him if he wanted to marry me, I think. I'm not entirely sure. But we haven't set a wedding date yet. First we want to move, so that's already a lot of money, and then we haven't even started saving for the wedding. So I think it'll take a while.

I'd have to say yes, given it's thrown by the right people.


What's the worst wedding you've been to?

My friend Werner and his wife rented this castle / youth hostel for all of us from Friday through Sunday, so the whole circle of friends spent three days in a beautiful castle, celebrating, drinking, laughing. Not only was it the best wedding I ever been to, hands down, it was probably also the best party. Which is just like it's supposed to be.


That sounds lovely and extremely expensive!

I find a lot depends on the location. If it's a cool one and the weather plays along, not much can go wrong. Also: no traditional dance music for the old people. My wedding, my music. This is my day, not my grandma's. I like the thought of a white, open tent on a beautiful green lawn, whenever I think about a wedding. Problem is, I don't think I am cut out for the mere idea of getting married.


That sounds lovely as well. Although more daring, in case the weather turns nasty. As for whether or not you're cut out for marriage... I am a firm believer that not everyone is cut out for life long commitments. But who knows, may be you'll surprise yourself one day.
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Weddings Helene - 04/04/2011 02:16:28 PM 1349 Views
Own answers Helene - 04/04/2011 02:24:56 PM 921 Views
Bach. CEREMONY!!! LadyLorraine - 04/04/2011 02:25:14 PM 969 Views
The wedding is the entire day, right, ceremony + reception? Helene - 04/04/2011 02:39:38 PM 913 Views
ha ha yah I was sober. Unfort. actually LadyLorraine - 04/04/2011 10:32:50 PM 697 Views
Coldness can sober/wake you up...of course, warmth then can make it come back with a vengeance. *NM* Helene - 05/04/2011 12:58:13 PM 350 Views
Yah, I would have put the window down LadyLorraine - 06/04/2011 04:44:12 AM 674 Views
Re: Weddings random thoughts - 04/04/2011 02:30:21 PM 849 Views
What's JP? Helene - 04/04/2011 02:43:56 PM 806 Views
The smart way to get married random thoughts - 04/04/2011 03:21:54 PM 724 Views
Ah... we don't do that here, at least, not that fast Helene - 04/04/2011 03:26:43 PM 708 Views
there is still a waiting periiod depending on the state random thoughts - 04/04/2011 04:36:43 PM 700 Views
Oh ok :-). Then it's not very different. Is it just Nevada that has the quick wedding? *NM* Helene - 05/04/2011 12:58:44 PM 336 Views
Re: Weddings nossy - 04/04/2011 02:56:31 PM 820 Views
But you're marrying Snoopster! Helene - 04/04/2011 03:15:42 PM 862 Views
That's part of the problem! nossy - 04/04/2011 03:26:20 PM 908 Views
snoopcester - 04/04/2011 03:54:42 PM 847 Views
Sorry, but you shouldn't have just assumed you were invited. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 04/04/2011 09:33:46 PM 339 Views
I am quietly confident I'm not her aunt. *NM* snoopcester - 04/04/2011 11:05:33 PM 340 Views
But how do we know you're not? *NM* Helene - 05/04/2011 12:59:05 PM 337 Views
Re: That's part of the problem! Macharius - 04/04/2011 04:11:53 PM 814 Views
She wouldn't be dramatic there, that would be fine. nossy - 05/04/2011 05:11:47 PM 834 Views
If you don't want drama, don't invite family. Seriously, listen to the voice of experience here. *NM* Macharius - 04/04/2011 04:07:42 PM 396 Views
you are not factoring in the drama of not inviting family. Camilla - 04/04/2011 04:32:51 PM 751 Views
Yes, I was. Macharius - 04/04/2011 06:51:29 PM 754 Views
Wow Camilla - 04/04/2011 06:53:18 PM 764 Views
How can you *not* invite family? Family is all that matters. *NM* Vivien - 05/04/2011 02:18:55 AM 387 Views
That entirely depends on how you define family. LadyLorraine - 05/04/2011 03:46:11 AM 822 Views
Re: That entirely depends on how you define family. Vivien - 05/04/2011 08:16:15 PM 738 Views
a lot of families create a lot of inner suffering LadyLorraine - 05/04/2011 10:49:50 PM 771 Views
Re: That entirely depends on how you define family. Clover - 26/04/2011 09:26:06 PM 777 Views
In your opinion. For me, as an example, it is the people I care for and respect that matter. snoopcester - 05/04/2011 10:26:53 AM 676 Views
We just come from different worlds. Vivien - 05/04/2011 08:14:32 PM 792 Views
Yes snoopcester - 05/04/2011 08:56:17 PM 819 Views
Sorry Grandma but we only had room for 100 guest and you didn't make the cut *NM* random thoughts - 05/04/2011 02:22:07 PM 328 Views
Are you getting married over here or over there? Clover - 26/04/2011 09:22:21 PM 738 Views
I've always wondered about how that works... ironclad - 04/04/2011 03:01:12 PM 789 Views
I asked my fiancé on a day I'd planned for quite a few months, but then ruined a couple of weeks Helene - 04/04/2011 03:20:41 PM 852 Views
Re: I asked my fiancé on a day I'd planned for quite a few months, but then ruined a couple of weeks ironclad - 04/04/2011 03:38:03 PM 885 Views
Re: I asked my fiancé on a day I'd planned for quite a few months, but then ruined a couple of weeks Helene - 05/04/2011 01:22:03 PM 803 Views
well, certainly you will talk about it with your s.o. before it happens. temeraire - 04/04/2011 06:47:30 PM 782 Views
Re: Weddings Birdeye - 04/04/2011 03:27:29 PM 879 Views
Re: Weddings TaskmasterJack - 04/04/2011 09:37:03 PM 777 Views
Gah, weddings. Camilla - 04/04/2011 03:43:51 PM 833 Views
Getting hitched snoopcester - 04/04/2011 03:54:20 PM 859 Views
Re: Getting hitched Camilla - 04/04/2011 03:57:18 PM 742 Views
that is the catch snoopcester - 04/04/2011 04:42:16 PM 768 Views
Re: that is the catch Vivien - 05/04/2011 08:18:33 PM 732 Views
Probably best not to count the wedding present snoopcester - 05/04/2011 09:01:45 PM 770 Views
Re: Probably best not to count the wedding present Vivien - 11/04/2011 01:20:24 AM 839 Views
Re: Weddings Macharius - 04/04/2011 04:19:16 PM 717 Views
Re: Weddings jh - 04/04/2011 04:58:28 PM 877 Views
Re: Weddings Stephen - 04/04/2011 05:42:06 PM 789 Views
ugh. we are having so much trouble with this... temeraire - 04/04/2011 06:30:10 PM 818 Views
A very special episode of Love Boat. TaskmasterJack - 04/04/2011 09:46:28 PM 762 Views
Well. Rebekah - 04/04/2011 09:50:04 PM 770 Views
Oooh, what did you wear? Vivien - 05/04/2011 02:26:51 AM 736 Views
You can see the top of it in my profile pic. Rebekah - 06/04/2011 08:37:49 AM 803 Views
I'd like to elope myself Mark - 04/04/2011 10:18:13 PM 804 Views
I do! Vivien - 05/04/2011 01:35:41 AM 698 Views
Re: Weddings wolfsister - 05/04/2011 02:40:38 AM 787 Views
Re-Weddings are cool; far less stressful, I think. Joel - 05/04/2011 04:38:03 AM 835 Views
Weddings...are we talking about mawage? Tom - 05/04/2011 09:18:17 PM 759 Views
Re: Weddings Aeryn - 06/04/2011 04:30:17 AM 780 Views
Re: Weddings globug0822 - 06/04/2011 05:58:54 AM 795 Views
I take it back... there was one. globug0822 - 06/04/2011 06:08:59 AM 662 Views
Re: I recently attended a wedding. mother of pearl - 15/04/2011 02:59:47 PM 900 Views
There must be at least five wotmaniac ladies who are engaged now. Clover - 26/04/2011 09:40:38 PM 837 Views
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