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Its not likely anyone will read this comment since there are so many already MalkierKnight Send a noteboard - 24/03/2011 01:12:19 PM
Have you done it? Could you please specify your/the other person's race?

Here's my dilemma. I'm white. (It's nice to meet you.) I recently went out with a guy who identifies as black (African American) - a first for me, which is statistically significant. I feel it would be wrong for me to date this guy because of the dearth of eligible black men. There are anecdotal facts like there are more black men currently in jail than attending college. Black women who are looking to date within their race (and many prefer to, for several reasons) face a well-documented crisis: intelligent, college-educated, professional black women VASTLY outnumber their male peers.

I feel it would be wrong, even immortal, for me to exacerbate that shortage. While I have no preference for his demographical type, many other women would. If I were to date this guy, it would simply an inefficient allocation of resources.

What do you think?


but i wonder where your idea that educated successful black women VASTLY outnumber the same sort of black men comes from? just because a black woman is not in jail doesnt mean she isnt neglecting her kids, hoarding welfare, and not getting a job. it strikes me that many successful black men want OUT of this sort of person as much as successful black women do. its just a tragedy and fact of culture and society that a higher percentage of black people fail to succeed in society the way white and asian people do.
You must unlearn what you have learned.
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Independence Day reference? Good man. *NM* - 23/03/2011 08:28:35 PM 547 Views
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And her mother is Muslim. - 24/03/2011 11:48:24 AM 1070 Views
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please give him a moment to google an answer. *NM* - 25/03/2011 11:04:02 AM 564 Views
She said it's called Abu Haifa (sp?) - 25/03/2011 10:38:13 PM 1067 Views
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That was it, Abu Hanifa. I'm poor with Arabic. - 26/03/2011 01:08:12 AM 1123 Views
amazingly enough, I dont believe you. - 23/03/2011 11:32:26 PM 1176 Views
I'd prove it to you. - 24/03/2011 11:47:33 AM 1042 Views
God help me, I'm agreeing with Dragonsoul. - 24/03/2011 09:29:56 PM 1040 Views
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Sometimes I worry about "this community"... - 25/03/2011 11:33:17 PM 1241 Views
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I didn't even see the "cow & milk" analogy. - 24/03/2011 04:03:02 AM 1015 Views
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It's true that after a certain age, average men have an easier time finding dates - 24/03/2011 01:31:35 PM 1005 Views
I don't date so I don't have personal experience - 24/03/2011 03:29:50 PM 1017 Views
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I think you're doing him a disservice. - 23/03/2011 02:16:59 PM 1124 Views
This. Plus, to try to frame it more in A's terms... - 23/03/2011 03:05:55 PM 1050 Views
It can add extra complications that negatively impact the likelihood of a successful relationship - 23/03/2011 02:50:39 PM 1052 Views
What I forgot to mention in the post - 23/03/2011 03:01:04 PM 1021 Views
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I think you should date him. - 23/03/2011 03:02:56 PM 996 Views
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Because you never know. - 23/03/2011 04:00:44 PM 1192 Views
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LOL. ( Yes I really did laugh out loud) *NM* - 24/03/2011 03:55:22 AM 541 Views
Most of the other responses are ignoring your reasons. - 23/03/2011 03:34:56 PM 982 Views
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Or - 23/03/2011 03:47:56 PM 1024 Views
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It's extremely unlikely that Tom was offended. - 23/03/2011 09:04:42 PM 1064 Views
I'm glad you're back, by the way. These threads are great. *NM* - 23/03/2011 09:15:41 PM 558 Views
Thank you. *NM* - 24/03/2011 04:01:08 AM 557 Views
I'm not offended, only amused at your poor logic. - 23/03/2011 09:24:05 PM 1098 Views
That's lawyer logic! - 24/03/2011 03:50:37 AM 1030 Views
Is there any other kind? *NM* - 24/03/2011 02:05:27 PM 556 Views
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You two are sooo cute! *NM* - 24/03/2011 07:29:12 PM 425 Views
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That's a good analogy. - 24/03/2011 03:50:17 AM 1117 Views
Shrug. She likes *me*. Plus, Jewish guys love Asian girls, well-known fact. - 24/03/2011 04:46:56 AM 1026 Views
What's wrong with wanting to preserve races or ethnic groups? - 24/03/2011 02:09:02 AM 1085 Views
When its the black race? *NM* - 24/03/2011 02:21:13 AM 555 Views
You're such an ass *NM* - 24/03/2011 02:52:12 AM 532 Views
*butts in* - 24/03/2011 02:45:26 AM 1093 Views
"It would be wrong, immortal [sic] even". - 24/03/2011 02:52:21 AM 1117 Views
Or potentially not (directly) from Africa - 24/03/2011 03:06:36 AM 975 Views
I've only seen "identifies as" when someone is of mixed race. *NM* - 24/03/2011 03:09:51 AM 515 Views
You're absolutely right. - 24/03/2011 04:14:49 AM 1057 Views
Then your argument is even sillier, as mixed race is too white - 24/03/2011 09:50:15 AM 943 Views
Is he "identifying as" black in a cultural context as well? - 24/03/2011 02:04:43 PM 919 Views
Re: *butts in* - 24/03/2011 03:03:14 AM 977 Views
You're a damn genius! - 24/03/2011 03:09:26 AM 1076 Views
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That could be argued in the opposite way just as easily. - 24/03/2011 09:48:16 AM 1007 Views
Huh - 25/03/2011 11:15:58 AM 1035 Views
Are you looking for reasons not to date him, or are you just being overly socially conscience? - 23/03/2011 08:12:48 PM 1049 Views
Ha. - 24/03/2011 04:17:26 AM 1037 Views
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Kinda? - 24/03/2011 04:23:12 AM 1097 Views
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<3 You Ana, BUT - 23/03/2011 08:44:11 PM 1031 Views
wait. did you..? - 24/03/2011 04:37:23 AM 1046 Views
Your taken aback by this why? - 24/03/2011 06:30:46 AM 1100 Views
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he is not a resource, he is a man. *NM* - 23/03/2011 11:29:37 PM 607 Views
Cock is a resource. *NM* - 23/03/2011 11:43:39 PM 517 Views
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1/6 of a minute. But it's still a comical coincidence. *NM* - 24/03/2011 09:52:19 PM 536 Views
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Awesome *NM* - 24/03/2011 09:03:13 AM 624 Views
I am currently dating a black woman... - 24/03/2011 06:29:03 AM 1039 Views
...I always figured your name was a Snow Crash reference *NM* - 24/03/2011 03:48:53 PM 542 Views
I have had the nickname longer than that has been out. *NM* - 24/03/2011 07:08:02 PM 560 Views
Don't date him. - 24/03/2011 09:44:30 AM 1040 Views
Its not likely anyone will read this comment since there are so many already - 24/03/2011 01:12:19 PM 1151 Views
She's not talking about welfare queens, she's talking about well educated black women - 24/03/2011 01:33:48 PM 1092 Views
It is. *NM* - 24/03/2011 09:33:01 PM 511 Views
this might help you understand what she is talking about - 25/03/2011 02:24:35 PM 1053 Views

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