This has to be one of the stupidest reasons for not dating someone I've ever heard.
Tom Send a noteboard - 23/03/2011 03:54:15 PM
You're essentially saying you're not going to date a guy because you think he should be dating a black girl. That's ridiculous. Everyone chooses who they want to date.
Furthermore, the whole notion that he should be dating a black girl is a racist notion. It has more to do with a concept of "preserving the black race" or "preserving blackness" or whatever you want to call it, that really should have no place in modern society, any more than an Aryan Nation concept about preserving the "purity of the master race" should.
I would actually find it easier to sympathize with you if you had said, "There are cultural differences between blacks and whites in America that remain and I don't think I have a lot in common with him". That would have been taking the interracial component and explaining why in a purely personal sense it gives you misgivings about allocating your time and energy to a relationship with the person. However, if your personalities are close enough, that should be enough.
Furthermore, the whole notion that he should be dating a black girl is a racist notion. It has more to do with a concept of "preserving the black race" or "preserving blackness" or whatever you want to call it, that really should have no place in modern society, any more than an Aryan Nation concept about preserving the "purity of the master race" should.
I would actually find it easier to sympathize with you if you had said, "There are cultural differences between blacks and whites in America that remain and I don't think I have a lot in common with him". That would have been taking the interracial component and explaining why in a purely personal sense it gives you misgivings about allocating your time and energy to a relationship with the person. However, if your personalities are close enough, that should be enough.
Political correctness is the pettiest form of casuistry.
ἡ δὲ κἀκ τριῶν τρυπημάτων ἐργαζομένη ἐνεκάλει τῇ φύσει, δυσφορουμένη, ὅτι δὴ μὴ καὶ τοὺς τιτθοὺς αὐτῇ εὐρύτερον ἢ νῦν εἰσι τρυπώη, ὅπως καὶ ἄλλην ἐνταῦθα μίξιν ἐπιτεχνᾶσθαι δυνατὴ εἴη. – Procopius
Ummaka qinnassa nīk!
*MySmiley*
ἡ δὲ κἀκ τριῶν τρυπημάτων ἐργαζομένη ἐνεκάλει τῇ φύσει, δυσφορουμένη, ὅτι δὴ μὴ καὶ τοὺς τιτθοὺς αὐτῇ εὐρύτερον ἢ νῦν εἰσι τρυπώη, ὅπως καὶ ἄλλην ἐνταῦθα μίξιν ἐπιτεχνᾶσθαι δυνατὴ εἴη. – Procopius
Ummaka qinnassa nīk!
*MySmiley*
Interracial dating (in the dating dilemma series)
23/03/2011 11:11:14 AM
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If you limit your dating pool by race you really have no reason to complain
23/03/2011 11:57:48 AM
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I dated a black girl for nearly 3 years.
23/03/2011 12:29:26 PM
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23/03/2011 12:57:08 PM
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And her mother is Muslim.
24/03/2011 11:48:24 AM
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What's it called? *NM*
24/03/2011 10:36:28 PM
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She said it's called Abu Haifa (sp?)
25/03/2011 10:38:13 PM
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amazingly enough, I dont believe you.
23/03/2011 11:32:26 PM
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God help me, I'm agreeing with Dragonsoul.
24/03/2011 09:29:56 PM
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I think that would be a poor reason to not date someone
23/03/2011 01:07:31 PM
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Can you edit your post and take out the cow analogies? Thanks. *NM*
23/03/2011 03:31:51 PM
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I didn't even see the "cow & milk" analogy.
24/03/2011 04:03:02 AM
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being offensive makes it no less true
24/03/2011 01:25:34 PM
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It's true that after a certain age, average men have an easier time finding dates
24/03/2011 01:31:35 PM
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It can add extra complications that negatively impact the likelihood of a successful relationship
23/03/2011 02:50:39 PM
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What I forgot to mention in the post
23/03/2011 03:01:04 PM
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Re: What I forgot to mention in the post
24/03/2011 05:11:11 AM
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If you have a lot in common with him and like him and are attracted to him
24/03/2011 09:41:01 AM
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I agree with you.
23/03/2011 03:26:02 PM
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And my opinion matters more than everyone else here combined! MWAHAHAHAHAHA
23/03/2011 03:28:06 PM
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Most of the other responses are ignoring your reasons.
23/03/2011 03:34:56 PM
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No one should try to think from "the perspective of black women", not even 1 black woman can do that
23/03/2011 03:47:34 PM
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Re
23/03/2011 04:05:20 PM
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I'm sure that Aeryn is lovely, but she's not the only lovely white woman in the world
24/03/2011 09:43:32 AM
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Or
23/03/2011 03:47:56 PM
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We have no control over how other people act.
23/03/2011 04:07:11 PM
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I agree completely.
23/03/2011 04:17:59 PM
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And it's a bit silly to determine for someone else who he should be dating *NM*
24/03/2011 09:33:09 AM
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This has to be one of the stupidest reasons for not dating someone I've ever heard.
23/03/2011 03:54:15 PM
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Your opinion: less than nothing.
23/03/2011 04:10:24 PM
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Who are you?
23/03/2011 08:37:43 PM
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It's extremely unlikely that Tom was offended.
23/03/2011 09:04:42 PM
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I'm not offended, only amused at your poor logic.
23/03/2011 09:24:05 PM
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Ooh that's harsh.
24/03/2011 03:48:50 AM
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This is all I get????
24/03/2011 03:54:22 AM
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+1, though I probably wouldn't have said it in quite the same way.
23/03/2011 11:03:07 PM
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Yup.
24/03/2011 01:42:16 AM
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That's a good analogy.
24/03/2011 03:50:17 AM
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Shrug. She likes *me*. Plus, Jewish guys love Asian girls, well-known fact.
24/03/2011 04:46:56 AM
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So it's not her choice who she wants to date, but everyone around her??
24/03/2011 09:39:58 AM
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What's wrong with wanting to preserve races or ethnic groups?
24/03/2011 02:09:02 AM
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*butts in*
24/03/2011 02:45:26 AM
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"It would be wrong, immortal [sic] even".
24/03/2011 02:52:21 AM
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Or potentially not (directly) from Africa
24/03/2011 03:06:36 AM
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I've only seen "identifies as" when someone is of mixed race. *NM*
24/03/2011 03:09:51 AM
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Re: *butts in*
24/03/2011 03:03:14 AM
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Re: This has to be one of the stupidest reasons for not dating someone I've ever heard.
24/03/2011 04:07:36 AM
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Are you looking for reasons not to date him, or are you just being overly socially conscience?
23/03/2011 08:12:48 PM
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<3 You Ana, BUT
23/03/2011 08:44:11 PM
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I understand what you are saying.
23/03/2011 11:04:44 PM
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There's not a wealth of eligible men from any race; maybe you should just stop dating entirely.
23/03/2011 11:27:40 PM
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Well, yeah.
24/03/2011 04:49:47 AM
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The critically large word is "if"; your reasoning is setting off massive circular claxons for me.
25/03/2011 11:30:15 PM
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he is not a resource, he is a man. *NM*
23/03/2011 11:29:37 PM
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Cock is a resource. *NM*
23/03/2011 11:43:39 PM
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"Efficient allocation of cock?" Oh my, that sounds really wrong. *NM*
24/03/2011 04:32:23 AM
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seriously? that is dumb. date the man. also, it is dehumanising to refer to him as a resource.
24/03/2011 12:52:38 AM
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Well, according to stand-up comics who specialize in racially based humor...
24/03/2011 01:29:35 AM
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Practical advice! *NM*
24/03/2011 03:58:34 AM
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... how did you? *NM*
24/03/2011 04:31:14 AM
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I don't know! Our posts are about 1/10 of a second apart, freaky. *NM*
24/03/2011 04:35:23 AM
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But that means if he's OK with it he's a commodity more rare and valuable than gold.
25/03/2011 11:37:48 PM
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I am currently dating a black woman...
24/03/2011 06:29:03 AM
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Its not likely anyone will read this comment since there are so many already
24/03/2011 01:12:19 PM
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She's not talking about welfare queens, she's talking about well educated black women
24/03/2011 01:33:48 PM
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