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Can you edit your post and take out the cow analogies? Thanks. *NM* Vivien Send a noteboard - 23/03/2011 03:31:51 PM

There is a shortage of quality black men but from what I hear there is a shortage of quality men looking for relationships in general. With some much free milk there are a lot less guys shopping for cows. If you have a college degree and want him to have one as well it is even worse since you out number him and spent four years in place where free milk is abundant.

Interracial dating can be a little more difficult but into today’s society it really isn't that big a deal anymore. Several of our friends are interracial couples and some of them do fine while others struggle. One of the couples we hangout the husband is black and the wife white and they at least seem to be very happy. Another couple she is white and he is from Mexico and they struggle. They both spend most of their time in the culture they grew up so they end up living very separate lives. They have other problem of course but this makes it worse i think.

There are other possible valid reasons like how your family will react and if you think he is worth alienating them. Does he associate with people from all of race or will he want you to spend most of your time in black culture. If he mostly associate with blacks but mostly dates white girls I would be cautious.

Casual dating I don’t think it would matter, not that I have really ever done casual dating. For me I guess it would depend on the race. I would need to be very interested before I dated a black woman simply because it could cause problems with extended family. No on would disown me or any crazy crap like that but I doubt she would feel that welcome at family reunions. I would still do it if I cared enough about her but it wouldn’t be on a whim. Any other race I think it would depend on if I thought we would both feel comfortable in the culture the other person lives in. That really is a big because no one want to feel like a constant outsider.
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Interracial dating (in the dating dilemma series) - 23/03/2011 11:11:14 AM 2191 Views
I am not a black woman and I haven't done it - 23/03/2011 11:24:16 AM 1148 Views
Re: - 23/03/2011 11:38:31 AM 1184 Views
Independence Day reference? Good man. *NM* - 23/03/2011 08:28:35 PM 572 Views
john lennon... - 24/03/2011 01:08:20 PM 1185 Views
I dated a black girl for nearly 3 years. - 23/03/2011 12:29:26 PM 1215 Views
- 23/03/2011 12:57:08 PM 1218 Views
LMAO Jens, you know me too well - 23/03/2011 11:30:35 PM 1104 Views
And her mother is Muslim. - 24/03/2011 11:48:24 AM 1129 Views
What's it called? *NM* - 24/03/2011 10:36:28 PM 583 Views
please give him a moment to google an answer. *NM* - 25/03/2011 11:04:02 AM 586 Views
She said it's called Abu Haifa (sp?) - 25/03/2011 10:38:13 PM 1107 Views
Hm, okay. - 26/03/2011 12:16:02 AM 1248 Views
That was it, Abu Hanifa. I'm poor with Arabic. - 26/03/2011 01:08:12 AM 1184 Views
amazingly enough, I dont believe you. - 23/03/2011 11:32:26 PM 1230 Views
I'd prove it to you. - 24/03/2011 11:47:33 AM 1096 Views
God help me, I'm agreeing with Dragonsoul. - 24/03/2011 09:29:56 PM 1087 Views
I think he is making it up for the benefit of this comunity - 24/03/2011 10:03:21 PM 1204 Views
Sometimes I worry about "this community"... - 25/03/2011 11:33:17 PM 1303 Views
I think that would be a poor reason to not date someone - 23/03/2011 01:07:31 PM 1213 Views
Can you edit your post and take out the cow analogies? Thanks. *NM* - 23/03/2011 03:31:51 PM 584 Views
I didn't even see the "cow & milk" analogy. - 24/03/2011 04:03:02 AM 1074 Views
being offensive makes it no less true - 24/03/2011 01:25:34 PM 1081 Views
It's true that after a certain age, average men have an easier time finding dates - 24/03/2011 01:31:35 PM 1060 Views
I don't date so I don't have personal experience - 24/03/2011 03:29:50 PM 1070 Views
I don't date either... :-) - 24/03/2011 03:42:33 PM 1290 Views
I think you're doing him a disservice. - 23/03/2011 02:16:59 PM 1182 Views
This. Plus, to try to frame it more in A's terms... - 23/03/2011 03:05:55 PM 1102 Views
It can add extra complications that negatively impact the likelihood of a successful relationship - 23/03/2011 02:50:39 PM 1120 Views
What I forgot to mention in the post - 23/03/2011 03:01:04 PM 1081 Views
Re: What I forgot to mention in the post - 24/03/2011 05:11:11 AM 1132 Views
I think you should date him. - 23/03/2011 03:02:56 PM 1039 Views
I think you should date this guy if you like him. - 23/03/2011 03:07:30 PM 1077 Views
I think that you're doing both of you a disservice. - 23/03/2011 03:09:29 PM 1117 Views
I agree with you. - 23/03/2011 03:26:02 PM 1119 Views
Well, you know your sis better than we do... - 23/03/2011 03:48:12 PM 1092 Views
Because you never know. - 23/03/2011 04:00:44 PM 1247 Views
Geez you know just the right things to say. - 24/03/2011 03:38:34 AM 1106 Views
LOL. ( Yes I really did laugh out loud) *NM* - 24/03/2011 03:55:22 AM 566 Views
Most of the other responses are ignoring your reasons. - 23/03/2011 03:34:56 PM 1047 Views
No one should try to think from "the perspective of black women", not even 1 black woman can do that - 23/03/2011 03:47:34 PM 1099 Views
Re - 23/03/2011 04:05:20 PM 1214 Views
Or - 23/03/2011 03:47:56 PM 1079 Views
We have no control over how other people act. - 23/03/2011 04:07:11 PM 1207 Views
I agree completely. - 23/03/2011 04:17:59 PM 1168 Views
This has to be one of the stupidest reasons for not dating someone I've ever heard. - 23/03/2011 03:54:15 PM 1101 Views
Your opinion: less than nothing. - 23/03/2011 04:10:24 PM 1200 Views
Who are you? - 23/03/2011 08:37:43 PM 1234 Views
It's extremely unlikely that Tom was offended. - 23/03/2011 09:04:42 PM 1114 Views
I'm glad you're back, by the way. These threads are great. *NM* - 23/03/2011 09:15:41 PM 576 Views
Thank you. *NM* - 24/03/2011 04:01:08 AM 579 Views
I'm not offended, only amused at your poor logic. - 23/03/2011 09:24:05 PM 1149 Views
That's lawyer logic! - 24/03/2011 03:50:37 AM 1083 Views
Is there any other kind? *NM* - 24/03/2011 02:05:27 PM 577 Views
Ooh that's harsh. - 24/03/2011 03:48:50 AM 1041 Views
This is all I get???? - 24/03/2011 03:54:22 AM 1150 Views
Oh, I appreciate. There's cake in the fridge *NM* - 24/03/2011 04:27:20 AM 546 Views
You two are sooo cute! *NM* - 24/03/2011 07:29:12 PM 450 Views
Yup. - 24/03/2011 01:42:16 AM 1173 Views
That's a good analogy. - 24/03/2011 03:50:17 AM 1176 Views
Shrug. She likes *me*. Plus, Jewish guys love Asian girls, well-known fact. - 24/03/2011 04:46:56 AM 1081 Views
What's wrong with wanting to preserve races or ethnic groups? - 24/03/2011 02:09:02 AM 1143 Views
When its the black race? *NM* - 24/03/2011 02:21:13 AM 575 Views
You're such an ass *NM* - 24/03/2011 02:52:12 AM 557 Views
*butts in* - 24/03/2011 02:45:26 AM 1143 Views
"It would be wrong, immortal [sic] even". - 24/03/2011 02:52:21 AM 1181 Views
Or potentially not (directly) from Africa - 24/03/2011 03:06:36 AM 1022 Views
I've only seen "identifies as" when someone is of mixed race. *NM* - 24/03/2011 03:09:51 AM 536 Views
You're absolutely right. - 24/03/2011 04:14:49 AM 1128 Views
Then your argument is even sillier, as mixed race is too white - 24/03/2011 09:50:15 AM 997 Views
Is he "identifying as" black in a cultural context as well? - 24/03/2011 02:04:43 PM 984 Views
Re: *butts in* - 24/03/2011 03:03:14 AM 1024 Views
You're a damn genius! - 24/03/2011 03:09:26 AM 1134 Views
I don't feel like one - 25/03/2011 01:17:07 AM 1090 Views
Re: This has to be one of the stupidest reasons for not dating someone I've ever heard. - 24/03/2011 04:07:36 AM 1135 Views
That could be argued in the opposite way just as easily. - 24/03/2011 09:48:16 AM 1061 Views
Huh - 25/03/2011 11:15:58 AM 1090 Views
Are you looking for reasons not to date him, or are you just being overly socially conscience? - 23/03/2011 08:12:48 PM 1087 Views
Ha. - 24/03/2011 04:17:26 AM 1092 Views
Heh, that really is the best thing *NM* - 24/03/2011 04:48:07 AM 578 Views
...wat. Is this a serious post? - 23/03/2011 08:23:04 PM 1093 Views
Kinda? - 24/03/2011 04:23:12 AM 1141 Views
I just broke up with my Pakistani girlfriend - 23/03/2011 08:24:52 PM 1049 Views
Heh heh heh heh - 23/03/2011 08:25:06 PM 940 Views
Ha, I didn't even see that typo. - 24/03/2011 05:14:40 AM 974 Views
<3 You Ana, BUT - 23/03/2011 08:44:11 PM 1079 Views
wait. did you..? - 24/03/2011 04:37:23 AM 1101 Views
Your taken aback by this why? - 24/03/2011 06:30:46 AM 1155 Views
I thought this was a great post. - 23/03/2011 10:26:08 PM 1135 Views
Glad I could entertain. *NM* - 24/03/2011 03:47:48 AM 516 Views
I understand what you are saying. - 23/03/2011 11:04:44 PM 1082 Views
An ally! Score! - 24/03/2011 03:56:53 AM 1045 Views
Aw, you're a darling. - 24/03/2011 04:26:39 AM 1112 Views
Also somebody brought up the valid point of his rights. - 26/03/2011 11:55:49 PM 1097 Views
he is not a resource, he is a man. *NM* - 23/03/2011 11:29:37 PM 634 Views
Cock is a resource. *NM* - 23/03/2011 11:43:39 PM 543 Views
seriously? that is dumb. date the man. also, it is dehumanising to refer to him as a resource. - 24/03/2011 12:52:38 AM 1134 Views
This is exactly it. - 24/03/2011 04:02:10 AM 1137 Views
I didn't quite. I was talking about the economic principle. *NM* - 24/03/2011 04:42:57 AM 548 Views
<--Black Guy Post - 24/03/2011 12:57:13 AM 1225 Views
Re: - 24/03/2011 04:53:07 AM 1126 Views
Um. - 24/03/2011 01:00:47 AM 1240 Views
Well, according to stand-up comics who specialize in racially based humor... - 24/03/2011 01:29:35 AM 1128 Views
Practical advice. I like it. - 24/03/2011 03:58:24 AM 1150 Views
Practical advice! *NM* - 24/03/2011 03:58:34 AM 539 Views
... how did you? *NM* - 24/03/2011 04:31:14 AM 586 Views
I don't know! Our posts are about 1/10 of a second apart, freaky. *NM* - 24/03/2011 04:35:23 AM 543 Views
1/6 of a minute. But it's still a comical coincidence. *NM* - 24/03/2011 09:52:19 PM 556 Views
I present to you: A VISION OF THE FUTURE-UTRE-UTRE-UTRE - 24/03/2011 02:19:19 AM 1226 Views
Oh, that was awesome *NM* - 24/03/2011 03:37:01 AM 580 Views
+ 10 best post ever. I can't believe how funny that was. *NM* - 24/03/2011 03:54:39 AM 603 Views
What just happened? *NM* - 24/03/2011 04:04:45 AM 533 Views
*NM* - 24/03/2011 08:32:36 AM 467 Views
Awesome *NM* - 24/03/2011 09:03:13 AM 643 Views
I am currently dating a black woman... - 24/03/2011 06:29:03 AM 1089 Views
...I always figured your name was a Snow Crash reference *NM* - 24/03/2011 03:48:53 PM 566 Views
I have had the nickname longer than that has been out. *NM* - 24/03/2011 07:08:02 PM 585 Views
Don't date him. - 24/03/2011 09:44:30 AM 1089 Views
Its not likely anyone will read this comment since there are so many already - 24/03/2011 01:12:19 PM 1208 Views
She's not talking about welfare queens, she's talking about well educated black women - 24/03/2011 01:33:48 PM 1167 Views
It is. *NM* - 24/03/2011 09:33:01 PM 529 Views
this might help you understand what she is talking about - 25/03/2011 02:24:35 PM 1118 Views

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