Amazing what's changed since February 2000 (when I first visited, although I didn't post until the following October) to March 2011. When I first visited, a few months shy of my 26th birthday, I was still in my first year of teaching. I talked a lot more about myself those days - what jobs I was taking, how this would be "it." Other people shared a lot more back then as well. There was more humor involved, even if some of it was silly.
When I was younger, I used to care more what people thought of me, even though most had never seen my face nor heard my voice. I think I even let myself be hurt and frustrated a couple of times by that. Now, it's hard to envision any sort of people behind their e-text. Not much personality emerges from anyone these days. So serious, so morose, so focused on issues and much less on getting to know other people. I think of even those who've been here/at wotmania 7+ years as near-total strangers. All I know is that instead of chit-chat, it's more a gruff nod and then some just plunge into that morass of "issues" as if those things are of paramount interest.
After 11 years, I don't know if I have it in me to make any new friends at this successor site. I just don't share all that much anymore; I'm all about the zany squirrel and wordplay humor and much less about talking about my current job (any of you know anything beyond the vague "he teaches somewhere" thought?) or other interests. I suspect others are much the same.
Yet despite this, do situations ever really repeat themselves when our perspectives change? Or is it that what we've learned and noticed over time is how to forget so much in order not to remember certain details? It sure would be nice for there to be more levity in people's lives these days. I can only say that it was nice to see a student smile less than two weeks after learning that his girlfriend may bear a stillborn baby in less than three months. Small victories are still victories, no?
When I was younger, I used to care more what people thought of me, even though most had never seen my face nor heard my voice. I think I even let myself be hurt and frustrated a couple of times by that. Now, it's hard to envision any sort of people behind their e-text. Not much personality emerges from anyone these days. So serious, so morose, so focused on issues and much less on getting to know other people. I think of even those who've been here/at wotmania 7+ years as near-total strangers. All I know is that instead of chit-chat, it's more a gruff nod and then some just plunge into that morass of "issues" as if those things are of paramount interest.
After 11 years, I don't know if I have it in me to make any new friends at this successor site. I just don't share all that much anymore; I'm all about the zany squirrel and wordplay humor and much less about talking about my current job (any of you know anything beyond the vague "he teaches somewhere" thought?) or other interests. I suspect others are much the same.
Yet despite this, do situations ever really repeat themselves when our perspectives change? Or is it that what we've learned and noticed over time is how to forget so much in order not to remember certain details? It sure would be nice for there to be more levity in people's lives these days. I can only say that it was nice to see a student smile less than two weeks after learning that his girlfriend may bear a stillborn baby in less than three months. Small victories are still victories, no?
I still think that's a lot of it. I think it's important to remember the details so that perspective grows rather than simply changing, but it's definitely critical to know which details should fade into the background rather than remaining a focus. We learn from the good as well as the bad, but shouldn't dwell on the past either as a source of embitterment or escapism. Every victory is a victory, and every source of strength an asset. The important thing is to grow and move forward, whatever the pace, and not become complacent in pleasant things nor discouraged by unpleasant ones. You're in a good position to do that in a number of ways, so here's wishing you the best of it. As long as you don't end up in TN you should be alright.
I think even if I end up staying here for the rest of my life, it won't be the crushing defeat that I once believed it'd be. Much more fun these days trying to think of ways of reaching these addicted students than it is collecting books or reading them. I've traded in a few hundred books in recent months just to buy more materials for them to read, even though some of those books I'd likely never read personally.
Illusions fall like the husk of a fruit, one after another, and the fruit is experience. - Narrator, Sylvie
Je suis méchant.
Je suis méchant.
Things that I have learned and noticed over 11 years
16/03/2011 11:07:50 PM
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Most of the personal sharing you describe I've shifted over to my Facebook activity.
17/03/2011 12:12:34 AM
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You are getting older, that's all
17/03/2011 01:12:14 AM
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Netscape turns 18 next year....
17/03/2011 01:21:40 AM
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It will never catch on!
17/03/2011 01:32:00 AM
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It's not that I don't still love the Illuminati BBS, a man just needs a little variety sometimes.
17/03/2011 03:30:55 AM
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joel, you're about to get married, no leering at other browsers for you! *NM*
17/03/2011 04:34:35 AM
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What's odd is that I've become happier and more content in recent years
17/03/2011 02:28:14 AM
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Familiarity breeds contempt.
17/03/2011 01:14:03 AM
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Thanks
18/03/2011 09:48:49 PM
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remember all that time we spent on the phone? sometimes i miss stuff like that
17/03/2011 05:34:08 AM
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Even I have gotten tired of the politics.
17/03/2011 06:17:23 AM
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My view on politics has changed quite a bit in the past few years
18/03/2011 09:40:31 PM
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Mine hasn't, really, but my opinion of repeating my positions endlessly has.
18/03/2011 11:14:39 PM
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Things I've learned..
17/03/2011 02:17:46 PM
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I stopped trying to be funny when I realized I wasn't, and that I can't take a joke.
17/03/2011 03:19:56 PM
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Well, you could just be silly instead
18/03/2011 09:52:46 PM
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I think part of the problem is people are simply not posting fun stuff any more
17/03/2011 05:03:52 PM
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Chat was definitely better than the MB for building personal relationships.
17/03/2011 11:34:49 PM
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Some of the conversations I have on FB are like chat with really bad lag. *NM*
18/03/2011 01:03:21 AM
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I don't think you like me.
18/03/2011 06:27:45 AM
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So ignore him. I like you.
18/03/2011 07:32:47 AM
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19/03/2011 04:43:55 AM
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Yeah, if you've been avoiding me over an internet fight, you really do.
19/03/2011 08:56:03 AM
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random thoughts is yours? Talk about your unlikely pairings....
18/03/2011 04:32:17 PM
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Re: random thoughts is yours? Talk about your unlikely pairings....
19/03/2011 04:46:59 AM
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It doesn't help that you don't tend to post things that make you likeable.
18/03/2011 06:55:04 AM
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I always took those posts as attempts to include people.
18/03/2011 05:33:55 PM
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That's a very positive outlook, which perhaps is shared by others *NM*
18/03/2011 09:13:43 PM
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10-11 years ago, I might have thought I was a major part of this site. Uncertain of that now,
18/03/2011 09:36:26 PM
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