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I agree, it's very difficult. Avendesora Send a noteboard - 12/01/2011 03:14:59 PM
For as much as SAHMs complain (rightfully in many cases) about a lack of respect/support system/etc., it's way worse for SAHDs. Apart from their own biological and psychological pressures. And for a guy who is forced into that role due to job loss (already a serious blow to the ego), such arrangements are practically doomed right from the start.
I agree on all points.

There are SAHMs who are "bums" just being supported by their husbands too, who keep the kids but not the house, or just hire out to nannies and/or housekeepers. And I suspect there are enough of them that that's part of the reason the choice is looked down upon. But even that is seen as more acceptable than when those roles are reversed
Yup!
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I believe all news and research that supports my opinion, and dismiss the rest as conspiracy and lies.
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Looks like the feminist movement wasn't as successful as it appears random thoughts - 11/01/2011 06:21:01 PM 2148 Views
I think you're extrapolating a bit too much beetnemesis - 11/01/2011 06:45:38 PM 1226 Views
The aricle does mention that women feel pressured to work when they did not want to random thoughts - 11/01/2011 06:48:47 PM 1221 Views
I don't trust the figures. Rebekah - 11/01/2011 06:50:24 PM 1247 Views
One assumes the latter, to the extent that "same job with same experience" can be defined. *NM* Legolas - 12/01/2011 07:10:13 PM 623 Views
One might assume that, but it's not necessarily so. Rebekah - 12/01/2011 08:58:14 PM 1206 Views
While I don't 100% agree with the article, some feminists annoy me no end. Rebekah - 11/01/2011 06:47:03 PM 1256 Views
My wife told me just this weekend I need to stop pressuring her to have a career random thoughts - 11/01/2011 06:52:11 PM 1238 Views
Re: My wife told me just this weekend I need to stop pressuring her to have a career Rebekah - 11/01/2011 09:35:43 PM 1214 Views
Re: My wife told me just this weekend I need to stop pressuring her to have a career Avendesora - 12/01/2011 01:36:14 AM 1238 Views
Yeah, got one like that, too. Joel - 12/01/2011 02:17:17 AM 1241 Views
yeah prett much anything gross that isn't in a diaper is my job random thoughts - 12/01/2011 05:12:11 AM 1173 Views
It's not just that choice though. Sareitha Sedai - 11/01/2011 07:12:48 PM 1303 Views
It feels more hypocritical coming from feminists than "traditionalists". *NM* Rebekah - 11/01/2011 07:17:24 PM 656 Views
For you maybe. Sareitha Sedai - 11/01/2011 07:27:52 PM 1230 Views
there is definitely some SAHM snobbery random thoughts - 11/01/2011 08:43:21 PM 1197 Views
Well. Rebekah - 11/01/2011 09:34:42 PM 1258 Views
I agree. I would also like to add, if I may... Avendesora - 12/01/2011 01:27:59 AM 1223 Views
all 25 of them? random thoughts - 12/01/2011 05:14:56 AM 1188 Views
Pffft, look it up a bit. You might find info on the national propaganda radio (NPR) site. Avendesora - 12/01/2011 12:47:33 PM 1230 Views
It's a difficult dynamic even under the best of circumstances, when both partners have chosen it. Sareitha Sedai - 12/01/2011 02:25:20 PM 1092 Views
I agree, it's very difficult. Avendesora - 12/01/2011 03:14:59 PM 1112 Views
it is nuanced random thoughts - 12/01/2011 03:06:39 PM 1163 Views
Re: it is nuanced Avendesora - 12/01/2011 04:58:36 PM 1169 Views
You are spot on. As usual. About everything. *NM* Tashmere - 12/01/2011 01:42:18 AM 694 Views
Sareitha Sedai - 12/01/2011 02:25:59 PM 1141 Views
I have to admit that this bothers me. rebelaessedai - 11/01/2011 07:33:09 PM 1250 Views
I don't expect people to understand my choice necessarily. Rebekah - 11/01/2011 09:36:52 PM 1259 Views
In addition... Jacob - 12/01/2011 05:39:25 PM 1130 Views
I guess you think the same of me then. Clover - 11/01/2011 09:48:31 PM 1123 Views
Another one? rebelaessedai - 12/01/2011 06:01:43 AM 1157 Views
Re: Another one? Rebekah - 12/01/2011 12:33:58 PM 1185 Views
~never mind~ *NM* *NM* Aeryn - 12/01/2011 04:42:47 PM 756 Views
I'm going to answer you anyway. Rebekah - 12/01/2011 04:54:18 PM 1244 Views
not to mention nossy - 12/01/2011 05:11:42 PM 1186 Views
In addition Sareitha Sedai - 12/01/2011 05:23:25 PM 1138 Views
you don't want kids? random thoughts - 12/01/2011 05:46:25 PM 1112 Views
bleck nossy - 12/01/2011 11:14:25 PM 1139 Views
again not the vibe I get from you random thoughts - 12/01/2011 11:38:26 PM 1115 Views
Hehe. Clover - 13/01/2011 12:15:06 AM 1168 Views
Not selfish. Tashmere - 13/01/2011 02:45:43 AM 1153 Views
You don't have to be a doctor to contribute to the world random thoughts - 12/01/2011 05:27:26 PM 1198 Views
Poor Aeryn Sareitha Sedai - 12/01/2011 05:29:47 PM 1127 Views
I replied before she edited random thoughts - 12/01/2011 05:41:53 PM 1078 Views
Am I at least absolved from having to respond? Aeryn - 15/01/2011 06:11:27 AM 1172 Views
Certainly. *NM* Rebekah - 15/01/2011 09:40:09 AM 693 Views
The primary issue... Jacob - 12/01/2011 05:52:42 PM 1105 Views
*NM* Sareitha Sedai - 12/01/2011 05:54:29 PM 618 Views
Agreed; ironically, that first line applies to this thread and mine with the parenting article. Joel - 13/01/2011 10:00:28 PM 1266 Views
What Rebekah said... Clover - 15/01/2011 07:55:34 PM 1109 Views
Me too! Clover - 11/01/2011 09:43:57 PM 1195 Views
Re: Me too! Darth_Katie - 12/01/2011 01:23:39 AM 1199 Views
It has been a long, long time since I have seen a woman getting looked down on for staying at home. Tashmere - 12/01/2011 01:48:42 AM 1057 Views
I have a fiancee like that. Joel - 12/01/2011 02:14:53 AM 1114 Views
I feel so fortunate to be a stay at home mom. Beqi - 12/01/2011 11:32:37 PM 1098 Views
My commentary on the whys and wherefores of this stuff would be way too politically incorrect SilverWarder - 11/01/2011 07:56:24 PM 1261 Views
I think all of that makes sense random thoughts - 11/01/2011 08:36:39 PM 1172 Views
In this particular case I don't disagree with you. SilverWarder - 11/01/2011 09:28:13 PM 1093 Views
I'm not sure why either sex should surpass the other in math. Joel - 12/01/2011 02:34:09 AM 1082 Views
men have more physical strength period random thoughts - 12/01/2011 05:30:14 AM 1104 Views
There's a lot more to running (especially marathons) then leg strength. Joel - 12/01/2011 05:41:11 AM 1096 Views
how much time the experts spend being wrong doesn't make them less wrong random thoughts - 12/01/2011 03:16:10 PM 1086 Views
How much more time they've spent studying it before drawing conclusions makes a big difference. Joel - 12/01/2011 05:42:26 PM 1094 Views
your right it is just a coincidence that their results always matches their politics random thoughts - 12/01/2011 05:56:03 PM 1137 Views
There's definitely such a thing as a self fulfilling prophecy. Joel - 12/01/2011 07:00:23 PM 1104 Views
so you would trust them if they only admitted conseratives? random thoughts - 12/01/2011 09:51:00 PM 1131 Views
Admitted? No, but they'll take anyone with the grades. Joel - 13/01/2011 09:47:42 PM 1121 Views
Every study I have seen shows most schools have few to no non-leberal proffesors random thoughts - 13/01/2011 10:07:08 PM 1067 Views
Every study I've ever seen shows that math and science fields have few to no women. Joel - 13/01/2011 10:42:46 PM 1166 Views
not when we know men are better at math thewpmen are random thoughts - 13/01/2011 11:10:18 PM 1204 Views
Sigh... we know no such thing, and even if we did, it would be those biased liberals telling us. Joel - 13/01/2011 11:30:33 PM 1027 Views
When you talk about reasons men "should" be better at math Sareitha Sedai - 12/01/2011 03:47:53 PM 1155 Views
Re: When you talk about reasons men "should" be better at math Macharius - 12/01/2011 04:32:38 PM 1053 Views
Re: When you talk about reasons men "should" be better at math Sareitha Sedai - 12/01/2011 04:41:42 PM 1133 Views
Both, really; the latter is a consequence of the former. Joel - 12/01/2011 05:21:28 PM 1028 Views
I'm trying to understand your position Sareitha Sedai - 12/01/2011 05:28:43 PM 1102 Views
try string theory, it makes more sense than Joel logic random thoughts - 12/01/2011 05:57:27 PM 1036 Views
Now you've got it. Joel - 12/01/2011 06:40:50 PM 1190 Views
Okay, that's fair. *NM* Sareitha Sedai - 12/01/2011 06:42:30 PM 605 Views
Glad we were able to reach an understanding. Joel - 13/01/2011 10:02:47 PM 1086 Views
Re: I'm trying to understand your position Camilla - 13/01/2011 08:12:05 PM 1133 Views
we know the brain of women works differently then the brains of men random thoughts - 12/01/2011 05:40:15 PM 1143 Views
What evidence I'm aware of seems inconclusive. Joel - 12/01/2011 06:46:50 PM 1000 Views
There are theories but of course they are unprovable random thoughts - 12/01/2011 10:50:08 PM 1098 Views
That's a logical rationale, and might even be accurate, but in this case I want hard evidence. Joel - 13/01/2011 09:03:32 PM 1034 Views
I think if you look you find you believe all sorts of things that can't be proven random thoughts - 13/01/2011 10:03:54 PM 1099 Views
I have, and have frequently argued everyone holds such beliefs. Joel - 13/01/2011 10:33:01 PM 983 Views
here is some evdience to argue that it is not society but biology random thoughts - 13/01/2011 08:43:43 PM 1149 Views
I think you did like I always do and forgot to give us a way to click your link. Joel - 13/01/2011 09:56:52 PM 1133 Views
oops random thoughts - 13/01/2011 10:07:55 PM 1160 Views
Seems like that's an argument for both views, in a way. Joel - 13/01/2011 11:14:11 PM 1055 Views
You can use anything to prove what you want if you are willing to spin it hard enough random thoughts - 14/01/2011 02:57:29 PM 1280 Views
I used YOUR article to "prove" what it says outright. Joel - 15/01/2011 05:35:27 PM 1242 Views
I would also like to say this: Rebekah - 11/01/2011 09:33:23 PM 1110 Views
Of course Tom - 12/01/2011 01:47:14 AM 1147 Views
Re: Of course Rebekah - 12/01/2011 04:57:11 PM 1143 Views
"Night" is also almost invariably feminine, in my experience. Legolas - 12/01/2011 07:58:12 PM 1163 Views
Re: "Night" is also almost invariably feminine, in my experience. Camilla - 12/01/2011 08:15:59 PM 1157 Views
It's true for Arabic and hence, one suspects, Hebrew. Legolas - 13/01/2011 07:43:21 PM 1071 Views
I'm glad YOU think it's fun... Joel - 13/01/2011 10:05:07 PM 1129 Views
I seem to remember reading about genders in Norwegian once, but I forget now... Legolas - 13/01/2011 10:11:24 PM 1167 Views
I think you may be right, but I'll no more after next week. Joel - 14/01/2011 12:20:54 AM 1252 Views
Re: I would also like to say this: Camilla - 12/01/2011 09:15:28 AM 1142 Views
Re: I would also like to say this: Rebekah - 12/01/2011 12:27:14 PM 1136 Views
No Camilla - 12/01/2011 12:28:48 PM 1047 Views
Re: No Rebekah - 12/01/2011 12:35:56 PM 1011 Views
Re: No Camilla - 12/01/2011 12:37:33 PM 1132 Views
Re: No Rebekah - 12/01/2011 12:43:36 PM 1122 Views
Re: No Camilla - 12/01/2011 12:47:56 PM 1159 Views
Since this has become too complicated Rebekah - 12/01/2011 12:54:54 PM 1157 Views
Re: Since this has become too complicated Camilla - 12/01/2011 12:56:20 PM 1150 Views
Re: Since this has become too complicated Rebekah - 12/01/2011 04:55:50 PM 1066 Views
The two are used as different psychological concepts. Darth_Katie - 12/01/2011 02:24:58 PM 1106 Views
Again, used incorrectly. Tom - 12/01/2011 03:34:22 PM 1085 Views
Re: Again, used incorrectly. Camilla - 12/01/2011 04:00:59 PM 1165 Views
Exactly. *NM* Rebekah - 12/01/2011 04:53:03 PM 615 Views
It really doesn't surprise me Beqi - 12/01/2011 12:36:19 AM 1125 Views
Have you left a memo at the Feminist Movement's Office? Dannymac - 12/01/2011 12:46:45 AM 1159 Views
what the point? Like good liberals they only believe science that agrees with them *NM* random thoughts - 12/01/2011 05:31:09 AM 544 Views
Actually, the feminist movement was completely successful. Tom - 12/01/2011 01:42:44 AM 1159 Views
Well put. *NM* everynametaken - 12/01/2011 02:10:56 AM 608 Views
I was playing a bit but I agree that the feminist in the past accomplished a lot random thoughts - 12/01/2011 05:34:04 AM 1152 Views
NOW is just a left-leaning PAC. Tom - 12/01/2011 03:16:52 PM 1112 Views
I would argue the women's movement and the feminist movement are not the same thing random thoughts - 12/01/2011 03:53:19 PM 1091 Views
Now if only others were so rational about it. SilverWarder - 17/01/2011 05:55:57 AM 2139 Views
Nevermind, Tom beat me to it. Avendesora - 12/01/2011 01:54:07 AM 1088 Views
Mmm. I don't think you understand the feminist movement. You have been reading to many things Tashmere - 12/01/2011 01:56:20 AM 1148 Views
I was refering to groups like NOW random thoughts - 12/01/2011 05:40:46 AM 1088 Views
Gotcha. Tashmere - 12/01/2011 11:53:29 PM 1084 Views
I was being a tad bit trollish with my title random thoughts - 13/01/2011 01:47:30 AM 1054 Views
I'm not sure that follows, at all. Joel - 12/01/2011 02:06:41 AM 1057 Views
they never mention their study methods Ava - 12/01/2011 02:14:15 PM 1135 Views
Gosh, look what you started. nossy - 12/01/2011 03:00:23 PM 1137 Views
somebody need to start something it is pretty dead around here *NM* random thoughts - 12/01/2011 03:16:54 PM 632 Views
Seriously *NM* beetnemesis - 12/01/2011 09:56:56 PM 602 Views
I agree that it would be awesome to hang with my kid every day and not have to work. TaskmasterJack - 12/01/2011 11:33:25 PM 1153 Views
that part would be great random thoughts - 12/01/2011 11:40:49 PM 1128 Views
I could do it every day. TaskmasterJack - 13/01/2011 12:52:56 AM 1043 Views
Me too... Jacob - 13/01/2011 02:45:49 PM 1177 Views
So here's the question. Why don't men have a "choice" to opt-out? Aeryn - 15/01/2011 06:13:28 AM 1145 Views
They do. Rebekah - 15/01/2011 09:42:29 AM 1085 Views
read further up the thread random thoughts - 15/01/2011 10:49:08 AM 1167 Views
I really wish that were more socially acceptable. Clover - 15/01/2011 07:58:57 PM 1179 Views
I feel I have that choice. TaskmasterJack - 16/01/2011 12:08:48 AM 1099 Views
They most certainly do. Jacob - 18/01/2011 04:39:09 PM 1223 Views
This sounds awful to me. rebelaessedai - 13/01/2011 04:27:08 AM 1129 Views
Re: This sounds awful to me. TaskmasterJack - 14/01/2011 02:47:36 AM 1138 Views
Yikes. rebelaessedai - 14/01/2011 11:13:39 PM 1115 Views
I should have twigged on to that sooner. I would have if I had read more posts before answering. Tashmere - 13/01/2011 02:50:20 AM 1125 Views
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