I could just see myself and any co-worker having a conversation like that and neither of us would be hurt or insulted, we would be laughing. Maybe a little off-colored humor but I still wouldn't have taken it as insulting at all if he had said it to me. Do I have rhinocerous skin? Am I one of God's Innocents?
I think you're just very good at giving people the benefit of the doubt. And not letting bad days get to you.
There are a few people that I might have jumped to conclusions about. Just not this guy. He hasn't given me reason to think that he is malicious. The worst he might do is get defensive is he is unfairly accused of something and I have seen that before but his automatic response is so close to what mine would be often that I wouldn't throw stones at him. I tend to snap at people when I am put on the defense. It is all I can do not to.
Really, out of all the people that you know, aren't most of them basically good hearted people? Would most of them hurt anyone on purpose? When I look at people with that in mind it is easier to assume the best. People rarely dissappoint me.
Office Bully
- 16/11/2010 04:19:36 AM
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Rat poison. *NM*
- 16/11/2010 04:37:34 AM
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Oh yes.
- 16/11/2010 04:40:20 AM
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In all seriousness, we don't have enough information on exactly what she's saying/doing.
- 16/11/2010 11:21:22 PM
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How does she not answer to anyone? Is she the manager? *NM*
- 16/11/2010 05:37:52 AM
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Hrm. Whether there's recourse or not depends on whether you're supported by management
- 16/11/2010 04:14:20 PM
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There is no HR dept/ and she is the owner's wife.
- 16/11/2010 04:37:09 PM
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...have you tried talking with her about it, or are you just assuming it will go poorly? *NM*
- 16/11/2010 05:03:18 PM
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*NM*
you could stop bullying people
- 16/11/2010 04:50:42 PM
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*NM*
- 16/11/2010 10:31:13 PM
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*NM*
- 16/11/2010 10:47:03 PM
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wow. I just don't know what to say to that. *NM*
- 16/11/2010 07:44:14 PM
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which part did you have a problem with? *NM*
- 16/11/2010 08:15:02 PM
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Well, that was utterly uncalled for.
- 16/11/2010 08:26:28 PM
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I didn't take that as rudenes. I am pretty sure he was just teasing. *NM*
- 16/11/2010 10:55:35 PM
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I thought that was possible on the original reply. The second removed my doubt.
- 16/11/2010 11:08:04 PM
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I took that as a good natured tease.
- 16/11/2010 11:14:52 PM
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Re: I took that as a good natured tease.
- 16/11/2010 11:16:57 PM
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Re: I took that as a good natured tease.
- 17/11/2010 12:39:45 AM
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*NM*
- 16/11/2010 10:31:13 PM
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*NM*
- 16/11/2010 10:47:03 PM
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Oh you know it! Your reply was nothing but poop flinging. *NM*
- 16/11/2010 10:51:07 PM
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Wow. I read what he said totally different from everyone else. I took the first part as teasing
- 16/11/2010 10:57:58 PM
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You could tell her you are ready to quit if things continue.
- 16/11/2010 11:05:00 PM
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What would happen if you told her that, Amy? *NM*
- 16/11/2010 11:08:28 PM
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She would likely open the door for me.
- 17/11/2010 12:35:23 AM
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The photography thing is just a hobby/extra income for now, then? *NM*
- 17/11/2010 12:38:17 AM
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You don't give enough information for us to be able to give you constructive advice *NM*
- 18/11/2010 11:30:16 AM
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