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Do your job, talk to your manager or HR Kel Send a noteboard - 16/11/2010 01:04:05 PM
You do your job and when she tries to bully you, you stand your ground and don't go along with it. Only you can let the bully get to you.

If you have specific examples, talk to your manager. If they are unwilling to help, talk to HR. Keep working up the chain until someone is willing to listen, and keep a record of what you are doing. I have a feeling that if your manager isn't willing to help, then HR definitely will. Companies are hyper-sensitive to this kind of stuff. If you file a formal complaint, the company will have to take some kind of action.

My wife had a similar situation, where one of her coworkers (who isn't her supervisor) basically told the rest of the staff "I'm just a bitch and you're all just going to have to deal with that". It's taken a few months, and it hasn't gotten really any better, but at least her manager knows what is going on. The problem is that with the union, they really can't do anything.
Kel (formerly Tristan de Luna)
Si hoc legere scis nimium eruditionis habes.

Politics: A strife of interests masquerading as a contest of principles. -- Ambrose Bierce

Time is a confidence game invented by the Swiss.
This message last edited by Kel on 16/11/2010 at 01:10:24 PM
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Office Bully - 16/11/2010 04:19:36 AM 1233 Views
Rat poison. *NM* - 16/11/2010 04:37:34 AM 322 Views
Oh yes. - 16/11/2010 04:40:20 AM 660 Views
How does she not answer to anyone? Is she the manager? *NM* - 16/11/2010 05:37:52 AM 286 Views
this is what I was thinking. - 16/11/2010 05:49:03 AM 664 Views
i worked with a guy once who was the owner's neighbor - 16/11/2010 06:42:34 AM 729 Views
She is the owner's wife. *NM* - 16/11/2010 04:40:30 PM 297 Views
do you have an HR department? - 16/11/2010 06:40:29 AM 737 Views
Punch her? *NM* - 16/11/2010 06:42:44 AM 346 Views
Do your job, talk to your manager or HR - 16/11/2010 01:04:05 PM 739 Views
Re: Office Bully - 16/11/2010 04:01:17 PM 711 Views
There is no HR dept/ and she is the owner's wife. - 16/11/2010 04:37:09 PM 740 Views
...have you tried talking with her about it, or are you just assuming it will go poorly? *NM* - 16/11/2010 05:03:18 PM 337 Views
I've spoken to her - 16/11/2010 07:45:26 PM 683 Views
ah yah. in that case, you can probably only quit or "deal" *NM* - 16/11/2010 07:48:31 PM 361 Views
you could stop bullying people - 16/11/2010 04:50:42 PM 717 Views
*NM* - 16/11/2010 06:13:25 PM 357 Views
wow. I just don't know what to say to that. *NM* - 16/11/2010 07:44:14 PM 346 Views
which part did you have a problem with? *NM* - 16/11/2010 08:15:02 PM 332 Views
Well, that was utterly uncalled for. - 16/11/2010 08:26:28 PM 724 Views
oh please - 16/11/2010 10:37:40 PM 828 Views
I don't read every thread on this board. I don't have to. - 16/11/2010 11:04:56 PM 683 Views
I didn't take that as rudenes. I am pretty sure he was just teasing. *NM* - 16/11/2010 10:55:35 PM 327 Views
I thought that was possible on the original reply. The second removed my doubt. - 16/11/2010 11:08:04 PM 779 Views
I took that as a good natured tease. - 16/11/2010 11:14:52 PM 707 Views
Re: I took that as a good natured tease. - 16/11/2010 11:16:57 PM 664 Views
Re: I took that as a good natured tease. - 17/11/2010 12:39:45 AM 714 Views
As did I, actually. *NM* - 16/11/2010 11:25:13 PM 306 Views
Sign me up under this one, too. *NM* - 17/11/2010 10:45:00 PM 374 Views
*NM* - 16/11/2010 10:31:13 PM 348 Views
*NM* - 16/11/2010 10:47:03 PM 334 Views
Oh you know it! Your reply was nothing but poop flinging. *NM* - 16/11/2010 10:51:07 PM 338 Views
Wow. I read what he said totally different from everyone else. I took the first part as teasing - 16/11/2010 10:57:58 PM 656 Views
You are much better at thinking the best of people! - 16/11/2010 11:02:24 PM 642 Views
Some people make it easy. - 16/11/2010 11:05:08 PM 599 Views
I thought he was teasing too. *NM* - 17/11/2010 02:26:35 AM 307 Views
Re: Ditto. - 17/11/2010 02:30:20 AM 708 Views
Dittoditto - 17/11/2010 03:24:39 AM 790 Views
Make sure that you are doing a superb job... - 16/11/2010 11:02:44 PM 695 Views
You could tell her you are ready to quit if things continue. - 16/11/2010 11:05:00 PM 644 Views
What would happen if you told her that, Amy? *NM* - 16/11/2010 11:08:28 PM 323 Views
She would likely open the door for me. - 17/11/2010 12:35:23 AM 672 Views
The photography thing is just a hobby/extra income for now, then? *NM* - 17/11/2010 12:38:17 AM 335 Views
It's not full time - 18/11/2010 06:08:22 PM 674 Views
Definitely time to go then. - 17/11/2010 12:45:35 AM 820 Views
Re: - 17/11/2010 12:12:02 AM 790 Views
We had a bully. - 17/11/2010 03:27:31 AM 734 Views
^this. - 18/11/2010 08:37:22 AM 788 Views
Is the bully the boss? - 17/11/2010 03:28:08 AM 886 Views
How does one combat douchbaggery? - 18/11/2010 05:16:20 PM 642 Views
Alas - 18/11/2010 06:06:38 PM 987 Views
Cut the nozzle and stop pouring in the vinegar solution. *NM* - 18/11/2010 11:47:34 PM 324 Views

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