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sorry, but it sounds like the time for "niceness" has long passed ßelals Girl Send a noteboard - 30/10/2010 07:28:56 PM
It is his father. Does that seem so easy? I mean, I could do it, but that's because we were raised to tell each other what was up. And btw, he's not whining, we've just discussed it. I can tell it bothers him.


It is his father yes, but it sounds like he has already spoken with him several times about it and his father won't stop. In situations like this, you have to be a bit of a hardass. The only way to stop him is to physically prevent him from entering the house, via a lock that he can't open. Yes, it is difficult when it's your own father you have to lock out, but the father has shown that this is the only thing that will stop him from being so invasive, so the roommate has to find the stones to do it.

It also sounds like the father could use some...er...professional help, but no one can make him go. The roomate could suggest it possibly, although that can be very difficult to do diplomatically, but he can't force him to go, so he needs to take measures to protect his privacy himself.

If not, then the father is going to keep cleaning his room every day, and there's nothing you can do about it, so don't make it your problem. Take steps to protect your own living space/stuff and don't worry about it :)
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Does anyone understand co-dependency? - 29/10/2010 03:59:52 PM 823 Views
That's almost.... creepy. - 29/10/2010 04:12:50 PM 548 Views
Almost? - 29/10/2010 04:45:41 PM 552 Views
It sounds like the man may have some OCD cleaning problems as well. - 29/10/2010 04:13:28 PM 558 Views
I definitely think so. - 29/10/2010 05:08:01 PM 548 Views
Re: I definitely think so. - 29/10/2010 06:17:51 PM 548 Views
I dunno. - 29/10/2010 04:26:19 PM 610 Views
Re: I dunno. - 29/10/2010 05:11:59 PM 583 Views
I don't think it's offensive. - 29/10/2010 05:19:03 PM 554 Views
well..even if it isn't offensive by nature, his dad will probably still be offended - 29/10/2010 05:25:54 PM 551 Views
Of course he will. - 29/10/2010 05:37:08 PM 559 Views
Um... I disagree with "what he's gettingout of it". - 30/10/2010 12:48:56 PM 536 Views
and if one wants a father, rather than a free maid? - 30/10/2010 03:00:03 PM 598 Views
He can make sure the place is clean before the father shows up. - 30/10/2010 03:25:40 PM 549 Views
I honestly think - 29/10/2010 05:12:09 PM 550 Views
I'd also say just take the key, but that's just me. - 29/10/2010 05:16:17 PM 533 Views
Why does he have a key? - 29/10/2010 05:23:50 PM 484 Views
Does he do the dishes and clean the bathrooms? - 29/10/2010 06:54:07 PM 533 Views
Tell your roomate to sh*t or get off the pot - 29/10/2010 07:37:35 PM 530 Views
that sounds, er, nice and all - 30/10/2010 03:07:06 PM 608 Views
sorry, but it sounds like the time for "niceness" has long passed - 30/10/2010 07:28:56 PM 610 Views
Give him my address and everyone wins. - 30/10/2010 10:25:30 AM 566 Views
I totally agree with Ave... - 30/10/2010 11:52:08 PM 598 Views

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