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Hells to the no, Glo. (Now with content.) Nate Send a noteboard - 06/10/2010 04:39:57 PM
First, if you're not having fun and not enjoying your time with him, that's a pretty solid indication that it's not going to work.

Second, don't let people tell you that there's anything wrong with being picky. I'm picky. Why should we compromise on what makes us happy? Finding someone isn't about just grabbing the first semi-decent person you see and going with it even if you aren't happy. It's about finding the person who does make you happy, even if it takes some time. If you were with someone who didn't make you happy, maybe you'd miss out on the person who would be right for you.

I recently found someone who makes me happy, and it was worth the wait. She had been involved with a handful of other people before that, a month at a time, and was never really all that happy. She'd go out on dates and says that she wouldn't really have fun. With me, the two of us immediately had fun and enjoyed each others' company.

And you know what? We didn't even kiss until our sixth date, and there was no certain type of touching like you described until we'd been serious and exclusive for three weeks. And there's nothing wrong with that.

He made you feel uncomfortable and the two of you had nothing in common. Hell, I felt creeped out just reading your description of it. Move on and keep looking. :)
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