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Please stop splitting hairs. You're way is simply inccorrect. You cannot justify the rudeness away. M & M Maddy Send a noteboard - 22/09/2010 10:49:05 PM
Almost everyone responding to you has told you that asking "Who is this?" is rude and unprofessional. Because it is. You keep saying you don't want to ask permission. You can't get around it. Asking permission is the ROOT of polite interaction.

Sometimes, I don't want to say please or thank you to people I hate, but I do, because it's polite. Its just how it is. It's the reason we teach children "Say please and thank you." or if you've ever played the game "Mother May I?"

If you call yourself "professional" you MUST accept that you have to ask things. I don't care what you do privately but in a business setting, it is a requirement.

I'm sure you are a hard worker and a good person, but in this thing you are wrong. Stop arguing with everyone. I don't care how nice your tone or if I can hear the smile in your voice, some one saying "Who is this?" when I'm making a business call is off putting. It sounds rude. You can't just think of yourself, you have to think of the person you are speaking to. They don't know you, they don't know your phrasing is harmless. And should you get the wrong person, they will make a fuss about it.

And yes, people who do not identify themselves are annoying. Yes it can even be rudeness toward you. But, politeness and professionalism also require that you rise above other people's mistakes.

You asked for opinions and you got them. You clearly don't like them, but they are correct. You need to change your ways.
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. - 22/09/2010 08:19:28 PM 1485 Views
I think "May I ask who's calling" is more polite. - 22/09/2010 08:26:55 PM 923 Views
. - 22/09/2010 08:31:17 PM 882 Views
Well, but... - 22/09/2010 08:42:22 PM 965 Views
. - 22/09/2010 09:05:01 PM 836 Views
you may not BE a receptionist... - 22/09/2010 09:20:09 PM 988 Views
"And your name, so I can tell (the person you asked for)?" *NM* - 23/09/2010 12:34:18 AM 427 Views
Re: May I ask who's calling / Who is this? - 22/09/2010 08:33:24 PM 949 Views
. - 22/09/2010 08:38:45 PM 793 Views
Re: May I ask who's calling / Who is this? - 22/09/2010 08:55:34 PM 1139 Views
Well, the whole asking permission bit is part of being polite. *NM* - 22/09/2010 09:05:43 PM 393 Views
. - 22/09/2010 09:06:47 PM 832 Views
Not so good for the phone answering, then. *NM* - 22/09/2010 11:29:34 PM 433 Views
Hmm... - 22/09/2010 08:59:23 PM 974 Views
It's "who" *NM* - 22/09/2010 09:50:15 PM 421 Views
Quite true - 22/09/2010 10:07:46 PM 932 Views
I say, "May I ask who's calling?" - 22/09/2010 09:00:10 PM 923 Views
What do you do if they say "No" ? - 22/09/2010 09:43:42 PM 867 Views
Than you say. ''Ok." They may have a reason for not disclosing their name. - 22/09/2010 09:49:56 PM 877 Views
That reason is often that they are nutters. - 22/09/2010 10:29:19 PM 989 Views
I hate it when people pull the "attorney-client privilege" thing. - 22/09/2010 11:31:01 PM 790 Views
They are almost invariably nutters. - 23/09/2010 01:45:41 PM 1226 Views
Tools! - 22/09/2010 10:13:32 PM 853 Views
I usually ask: "Who am I speaking with, again?" - 22/09/2010 09:12:29 PM 966 Views
I'm of the opinion that when you are at work, you represent your employer - 22/09/2010 09:14:58 PM 1097 Views
^ this. *NM* - 22/09/2010 09:23:00 PM 400 Views
+1 *NM* - 22/09/2010 10:10:59 PM 482 Views
I typically say something along the lines of "And who am I speaking to?" - 22/09/2010 09:27:05 PM 993 Views
Re: I typically say something along the lines of "And who am I speaking to?" - 22/09/2010 09:40:10 PM 1019 Views
well, i can sympathize with that a bit at least - 22/09/2010 10:00:34 PM 1155 Views
"Who should I say is calling?" *NM* - 22/09/2010 09:41:57 PM 396 Views
This. It's polite, and asks the question correctly. - 23/09/2010 02:05:01 AM 835 Views
I usually say "Who may I say is calling?" but that works too... - 23/09/2010 01:59:03 PM 1246 Views
language games..... - 22/09/2010 09:42:35 PM 915 Views
There would be apoplectic outcries if I answered the phone in such a way - 22/09/2010 09:45:56 PM 1060 Views
yeah.... i'm happy i get to be informal! - 23/09/2010 02:58:31 AM 942 Views
Who is this? is unprofessional - 22/09/2010 09:45:05 PM 940 Views
Re: Who is this? is unprofessional - 22/09/2010 09:48:58 PM 1099 Views
Re: Who is this? is unprofessional - 22/09/2010 09:54:13 PM 911 Views
it is not US standards. *NM* - 22/09/2010 10:03:47 PM 413 Views
good. *NM* - 22/09/2010 10:13:22 PM 484 Views
I generally don't because - 22/09/2010 10:43:38 PM 807 Views
well fair enough... - 23/09/2010 08:07:08 AM 914 Views
it doesn't matter if you HAVE to know their name. - 22/09/2010 10:07:18 PM 977 Views
You are being silly and immature. - 22/09/2010 09:49:20 PM 795 Views
Thanks for your input? - 22/09/2010 10:17:21 PM 1013 Views
I usually say, "B*tch, who you be!?" - 22/09/2010 10:13:57 PM 890 Views
Do you pronounce that with a click sound? - 22/09/2010 10:15:29 PM 925 Views
Re: May I ask who's calling / Who is this? - 22/09/2010 10:29:33 PM 741 Views
Perfect. *NM* - 23/09/2010 12:47:14 AM 475 Views
No you are *NM* - 23/09/2010 11:53:07 AM 470 Views
Please stop splitting hairs. You're way is simply inccorrect. You cannot justify the rudeness away. - 22/09/2010 10:49:05 PM 1027 Views
politeness is practically the definition of professionalism. - 23/09/2010 03:37:27 AM 948 Views
Who is this? always comes across as rude. *NM* - 22/09/2010 11:17:31 PM 394 Views
"Who may I say is calling, please?" is short and polite. - 23/09/2010 01:13:43 AM 867 Views
when someone asks me "may I ask who's calling?"... - 23/09/2010 03:29:30 AM 838 Views
that's because you're a tool - 23/09/2010 03:39:08 AM 1173 Views
because it amuses me *NM* - 23/09/2010 03:41:18 AM 426 Views
Huh - 15/07/2015 02:06:55 PM 458 Views

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