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Please stop splitting hairs. You're way is simply inccorrect. You cannot justify the rudeness away. M & M Maddy Send a noteboard - 22/09/2010 10:49:05 PM
Almost everyone responding to you has told you that asking "Who is this?" is rude and unprofessional. Because it is. You keep saying you don't want to ask permission. You can't get around it. Asking permission is the ROOT of polite interaction.

Sometimes, I don't want to say please or thank you to people I hate, but I do, because it's polite. Its just how it is. It's the reason we teach children "Say please and thank you." or if you've ever played the game "Mother May I?"

If you call yourself "professional" you MUST accept that you have to ask things. I don't care what you do privately but in a business setting, it is a requirement.

I'm sure you are a hard worker and a good person, but in this thing you are wrong. Stop arguing with everyone. I don't care how nice your tone or if I can hear the smile in your voice, some one saying "Who is this?" when I'm making a business call is off putting. It sounds rude. You can't just think of yourself, you have to think of the person you are speaking to. They don't know you, they don't know your phrasing is harmless. And should you get the wrong person, they will make a fuss about it.

And yes, people who do not identify themselves are annoying. Yes it can even be rudeness toward you. But, politeness and professionalism also require that you rise above other people's mistakes.

You asked for opinions and you got them. You clearly don't like them, but they are correct. You need to change your ways.
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. - 22/09/2010 08:19:28 PM 1584 Views
I think "May I ask who's calling" is more polite. - 22/09/2010 08:26:55 PM 1007 Views
. - 22/09/2010 08:31:17 PM 968 Views
Well, but... - 22/09/2010 08:42:22 PM 1049 Views
. - 22/09/2010 09:05:01 PM 924 Views
you may not BE a receptionist... - 22/09/2010 09:20:09 PM 1076 Views
"And your name, so I can tell (the person you asked for)?" *NM* - 23/09/2010 12:34:18 AM 468 Views
Re: May I ask who's calling / Who is this? - 22/09/2010 08:33:24 PM 1042 Views
. - 22/09/2010 08:38:45 PM 875 Views
Re: May I ask who's calling / Who is this? - 22/09/2010 08:55:34 PM 1225 Views
Well, the whole asking permission bit is part of being polite. *NM* - 22/09/2010 09:05:43 PM 431 Views
. - 22/09/2010 09:06:47 PM 922 Views
Not so good for the phone answering, then. *NM* - 22/09/2010 11:29:34 PM 467 Views
Hmm... - 22/09/2010 08:59:23 PM 1080 Views
It's "who" *NM* - 22/09/2010 09:50:15 PM 462 Views
Quite true - 22/09/2010 10:07:46 PM 1025 Views
I say, "May I ask who's calling?" - 22/09/2010 09:00:10 PM 1018 Views
What do you do if they say "No" ? - 22/09/2010 09:43:42 PM 958 Views
Than you say. ''Ok." They may have a reason for not disclosing their name. - 22/09/2010 09:49:56 PM 970 Views
That reason is often that they are nutters. - 22/09/2010 10:29:19 PM 1079 Views
I hate it when people pull the "attorney-client privilege" thing. - 22/09/2010 11:31:01 PM 881 Views
They are almost invariably nutters. - 23/09/2010 01:45:41 PM 1324 Views
Tools! - 22/09/2010 10:13:32 PM 946 Views
I usually ask: "Who am I speaking with, again?" - 22/09/2010 09:12:29 PM 1056 Views
I'm of the opinion that when you are at work, you represent your employer - 22/09/2010 09:14:58 PM 1183 Views
^ this. *NM* - 22/09/2010 09:23:00 PM 445 Views
+1 *NM* - 22/09/2010 10:10:59 PM 526 Views
I typically say something along the lines of "And who am I speaking to?" - 22/09/2010 09:27:05 PM 1106 Views
Re: I typically say something along the lines of "And who am I speaking to?" - 22/09/2010 09:40:10 PM 1113 Views
well, i can sympathize with that a bit at least - 22/09/2010 10:00:34 PM 1246 Views
"Who should I say is calling?" *NM* - 22/09/2010 09:41:57 PM 437 Views
This. It's polite, and asks the question correctly. - 23/09/2010 02:05:01 AM 926 Views
I usually say "Who may I say is calling?" but that works too... - 23/09/2010 01:59:03 PM 1333 Views
language games..... - 22/09/2010 09:42:35 PM 1004 Views
There would be apoplectic outcries if I answered the phone in such a way - 22/09/2010 09:45:56 PM 1155 Views
yeah.... i'm happy i get to be informal! - 23/09/2010 02:58:31 AM 1041 Views
Who is this? is unprofessional - 22/09/2010 09:45:05 PM 1031 Views
Re: Who is this? is unprofessional - 22/09/2010 09:48:58 PM 1207 Views
Re: Who is this? is unprofessional - 22/09/2010 09:54:13 PM 1005 Views
it is not US standards. *NM* - 22/09/2010 10:03:47 PM 474 Views
good. *NM* - 22/09/2010 10:13:22 PM 524 Views
I generally don't because - 22/09/2010 10:43:38 PM 897 Views
well fair enough... - 23/09/2010 08:07:08 AM 995 Views
it doesn't matter if you HAVE to know their name. - 22/09/2010 10:07:18 PM 1074 Views
You are being silly and immature. - 22/09/2010 09:49:20 PM 883 Views
Thanks for your input? - 22/09/2010 10:17:21 PM 1104 Views
I usually say, "B*tch, who you be!?" - 22/09/2010 10:13:57 PM 988 Views
Do you pronounce that with a click sound? - 22/09/2010 10:15:29 PM 1015 Views
Re: May I ask who's calling / Who is this? - 22/09/2010 10:29:33 PM 828 Views
Perfect. *NM* - 23/09/2010 12:47:14 AM 519 Views
No you are *NM* - 23/09/2010 11:53:07 AM 510 Views
Please stop splitting hairs. You're way is simply inccorrect. You cannot justify the rudeness away. - 22/09/2010 10:49:05 PM 1114 Views
politeness is practically the definition of professionalism. - 23/09/2010 03:37:27 AM 1040 Views
Who is this? always comes across as rude. *NM* - 22/09/2010 11:17:31 PM 442 Views
"Who may I say is calling, please?" is short and polite. - 23/09/2010 01:13:43 AM 958 Views
when someone asks me "may I ask who's calling?"... - 23/09/2010 03:29:30 AM 926 Views
that's because you're a tool - 23/09/2010 03:39:08 AM 1261 Views
because it amuses me *NM* - 23/09/2010 03:41:18 AM 466 Views
Huh - 15/07/2015 02:06:55 PM 546 Views

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