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Re: Actually, I did. And since everyone else told you you're wrong about that I didn't see any need MalkierKnight Send a noteboard - 12/08/2010 09:55:05 PM
... to add it to mine.

You said that I didn't want marriage for homosexuals. Which is not the case. If you choose to pretend that you answered me with something different, then that's up to you.

So, I shall quote you: "The line between discrimination and opinion is a very thin one. I don't see how you're not discriminating here since you've offered no reasoning for why gay's ought not be married and addressed none of my points. It was a lengthy post so I can sympathize with not reading it entirely. "

I did give you reasons for my religious opinion, which you ignored. I said that in my church, the homosexual act is against God's word. To expand upon that in a (possibly pointless, given your inability to read) attempt to help you understand: since homosexual sex is, in my church, against the Word of God, officiating a marriage of two homosexual people would be saying that the relationship is fine in the eyes of the church, that the church is happy with them having sex. My church is not happy with that, because (I can say this ad infinitum if you like) we believe it does not fit in with the rules that God has given us to live by in His Word. That is my church's rules, and people who don't like them don't have to be in that church. There's no requirement to be part of it. It's a choice. It's like belonging to a club.

Since living in a particular country isn't anywhere near as much of a choice, mostly being an accident of birth, governments should ensure there is a state provision of marriage to all people who wish to get married, as consenting adults.

But that does not extend to private clubs which have no state sanctioning, no public service factor, and no requirement to belong. It's not like having a job, which you need to make money to keep you alive. It's not like going to a doctor, which helps you stay healthy and alive (although that's a bit funny to be writing to an American), and it's not like public transport, which enables necessary movement from place to place. It's an extra, another of life's choices. It doesn't (necessarily) keep you alive, fed, healthy, etc. It's for personal enjoyment. And the state has no right to decide what goes on there, unless what does go on trangresses a person or their possession.



No. You misunderstand. Again.

Though perhaps my phrasing muddled things a bit. In my FP I referred to "state marriages" as you call them as civil unions, to avoid the confusion between religious marriages and state marriages. Often talk about gay marriage revolves around two people talking around this terms. When I said you didn't support gay marriage, I meant the kind that aren't civil unions.

Furthermore, my point is that your church is discriminating against gays by saying they can't get married.

I'm not sure which church you belong to, but many many churches marry sinners, with full knowledge that marriage may only encourage their sinning in the future.

People have brought up a lot about the church "sanctioning" homosexuality as a problem with gay marriage. But the bible also says "sex for fun" is a sin too. Nowadays, marriage means lots of "sex for fun" (hopefully) as well. But the church wouldn't dare not marry these people because there are simply too many. Some churches even pass out condoms when premarital sex is a sin. This too is sanctioning a sin.

"Sanctioned" sins happen all the time.

So why all the grief with gay marriage? Especially when we take into account that there are only about three lines in the bible referring to homosexuality (NONE of which are jesus's words) and hundreds more on accepting others, that we are all sinners, and even jesus's own words on accepting outcasts.

The only explanation I can think of is a subtle homophobia.

Now, I'm not saying you're homophobic, only that the people that make/made decisions in your church probably are. At the very least, they lived in an era where homosexuality wasn't as pressing an issue.

The word of God may call homosexuality a sin. But the word of God also calls premarital sex, adultery, and loads of other stuff sins too. Yet every day, churches pass out condoms and allow divorces when affairs were involved.

So what real grounds do churches have for banning gay marriage?

Does gay marriage somehow alter the essence of christianity in ANY way?

The answer, in a word, is no.
You must unlearn what you have learned.
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Gay Marriage - 12/08/2010 10:23:19 AM 1834 Views
I disagree on the latter part - 12/08/2010 12:04:15 PM 1210 Views
I follow your point... - 12/08/2010 12:14:17 PM 1192 Views
Suspect you would find plenty of denominations that would argue with you rather strenuously. - 12/08/2010 12:24:55 PM 1188 Views
See, that's what I'm saying... - 12/08/2010 07:37:26 PM 1152 Views
She didn't say that gays ought not be married. - 12/08/2010 07:45:37 PM 1010 Views
You didn't read my post. - 12/08/2010 09:10:21 PM 1065 Views
Actually, you didn't read my post - 12/08/2010 09:23:54 PM 1105 Views
Um, you're wrong. - 12/08/2010 09:37:13 PM 1114 Views
Re: Um, you're wrong. - 12/08/2010 09:44:17 PM 1073 Views
You're still wrong. - 12/08/2010 09:54:55 PM 1210 Views
Re: You're still wrong. - 12/08/2010 09:58:26 PM 1065 Views
Again, you are still wrong. - 12/08/2010 10:04:42 PM 1113 Views
Re: Again, you are still wrong. - 12/08/2010 10:17:13 PM 961 Views
Wrong definition of "club" - 12/08/2010 10:30:52 PM 1210 Views
My clubs are cooler than yours. *NM* - 12/08/2010 10:35:13 PM 578 Views
I play golf with mine. *NM* - 12/08/2010 10:43:01 PM 589 Views
Re: Wrong definition of "club" - 12/08/2010 10:40:55 PM 1117 Views
Are you a member of one of those churches? - 12/08/2010 10:44:12 PM 1133 Views
Also also: - 12/08/2010 10:46:05 PM 1143 Views
Re: Are you a member of one of those churches? - 12/08/2010 10:49:44 PM 1045 Views
Re: Wrong definition of "club" - 12/08/2010 10:47:20 PM 1151 Views
I don't think he means that kind of club. - 12/08/2010 10:31:41 PM 1026 Views
Also - 12/08/2010 10:02:44 PM 1159 Views
And wrong again. - 12/08/2010 10:08:24 PM 1183 Views
Not so quick! - 12/08/2010 10:21:31 PM 1020 Views
Yes, so quick! - 12/08/2010 10:32:13 PM 966 Views
Let's be reasonable here - 12/08/2010 10:41:53 PM 1076 Views
Why do you get to judge? - 12/08/2010 10:48:57 PM 1104 Views
I don't - 12/08/2010 10:53:21 PM 998 Views
OK. - 12/08/2010 10:58:22 PM 1109 Views
Re: OK. - 12/08/2010 11:03:50 PM 1041 Views
Then please stop. - 12/08/2010 11:01:05 PM 1078 Views
What's wrong with discussion? - 12/08/2010 11:05:48 PM 1018 Views
Discussion? Nothing. Your assertions about other people's views, something. - 12/08/2010 11:09:48 PM 1047 Views
Really? - 12/08/2010 11:13:46 PM 1077 Views
Yes. That is incorrect. - 12/08/2010 11:18:05 PM 1039 Views
What, because the expressive message of scouting is anti-gay? - 12/08/2010 10:12:54 PM 918 Views
Re: What, because the expressive message of scouting is anti-gay? - 12/08/2010 10:23:36 PM 1065 Views
Well then that brings us back to my question, which you have yet to answer. - 12/08/2010 10:36:48 PM 1022 Views
Re: Well then that brings us back to my question, which you have yet to answer. - 12/08/2010 10:46:22 PM 1135 Views
Apparently you do believe that you are more qualified - 12/08/2010 10:57:00 PM 1008 Views
You are wrong - 12/08/2010 11:11:37 PM 858 Views
Really? - 12/08/2010 11:19:10 PM 948 Views
Not entirely true either... or, well, true as far as Brown goes. - 12/08/2010 10:08:42 PM 1030 Views
Heh... we discuss restaurants a post or two over there.. ---> - 12/08/2010 10:10:26 PM 1126 Views
Actually, I did. And since everyone else told you you're wrong about that I didn't see any need - 12/08/2010 09:38:33 PM 1105 Views
Re: Actually, I did. And since everyone else told you you're wrong about that I didn't see any need - 12/08/2010 09:55:05 PM 1038 Views
Gah. - 12/08/2010 09:59:45 PM 989 Views
Yes yes yes. It was ungracious. I got bored. *NM* - 12/08/2010 10:03:17 PM 541 Views
What a mature response. - 12/08/2010 10:11:00 PM 1171 Views
Yes. - 12/08/2010 10:21:38 PM 1111 Views
Re: Yes. - 12/08/2010 10:35:51 PM 1055 Views
I can't speak for Rebekah, but I don't think the issue is that your points are invalid per se. - 12/08/2010 10:22:30 PM 1010 Views
I think my point was unclear in that post - 12/08/2010 10:55:34 PM 1081 Views
It seems that by your (to me nebulous) definition - 12/08/2010 11:05:01 PM 1084 Views
Re: I think my point was unclear in that post - 13/08/2010 10:58:28 AM 989 Views
+1 - 13/08/2010 09:16:24 AM 876 Views
Hehe - 13/08/2010 10:46:25 AM 928 Views
Um - 12/08/2010 09:46:43 PM 1136 Views
That's a very good question. *NM* - 12/08/2010 09:49:05 PM 532 Views
So good it doesn't even need an answer, apparently *NM* - 12/08/2010 10:26:41 PM 573 Views
So good I responded to it someplace else. *NM* - 12/08/2010 10:56:05 PM 467 Views
It makes no sense - 12/08/2010 04:29:24 PM 975 Views
Re: It makes no sense - 12/08/2010 07:39:25 PM 1054 Views
Re: It makes no sense - 12/08/2010 07:41:02 PM 1127 Views
It's not sanctioning anything - 12/08/2010 09:25:44 PM 1080 Views
Re: It's not sanctioning anything - 12/08/2010 09:28:45 PM 1050 Views
Nonsense - 12/08/2010 09:35:25 PM 1002 Views
Yes, but while marrying two murderers does not ensure that they will continue to murder... - 12/08/2010 09:08:53 PM 967 Views
Re: Yes, but while marrying two murderers does not ensure that they will continue to murder... - 12/08/2010 09:42:21 PM 1080 Views
Suspect you've not read that either. - 12/08/2010 09:43:32 PM 1013 Views
What other church sanctioned circumstances encourage continued sin? - 12/08/2010 09:45:33 PM 1137 Views
Infant baptism, obviously. - 12/08/2010 09:51:48 PM 1128 Views
*NM* - 12/08/2010 09:53:17 PM 378 Views
*groan* I forgot that one! - 12/08/2010 10:09:07 PM 1082 Views
Re: What other church sanctioned circumstances encourage continued sin? - 13/08/2010 11:04:02 AM 1072 Views
Wow, it's almost like an entire denomination believes that! *NM* - 13/08/2010 03:41:07 PM 516 Views
really? - 13/08/2010 03:42:42 PM 948 Views
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Yeah, that's the Roman Catholic basis against masturbation and contraception. *NM* - 13/08/2010 04:12:00 PM 516 Views
Yes - 13/08/2010 04:22:58 PM 925 Views
Which is interesting - 13/08/2010 04:28:09 PM 911 Views
Yes - 13/08/2010 04:29:25 PM 895 Views
Original poster. *NM* - 13/08/2010 04:32:18 PM 570 Views
- 13/08/2010 04:34:30 PM 920 Views
Dude....please at least have a working knowledge of the Bible before you spout off. - 12/08/2010 10:47:13 PM 957 Views
I like the part in 1 Corinthians (is it chapter 6?) - 12/08/2010 10:49:55 PM 854 Views
Ya know?!? - 12/08/2010 10:55:27 PM 965 Views
I'm not sure you're correct there. - 12/08/2010 04:33:02 PM 1071 Views
Re: I'm not sure you're correct there. - 12/08/2010 07:40:16 PM 1084 Views
There is a difference... - 12/08/2010 09:02:20 PM 1118 Views
No you don't. - 12/08/2010 09:16:52 PM 1101 Views
That's another concern - 12/08/2010 12:39:53 PM 1160 Views
Not quite my point - 12/08/2010 09:19:50 PM 1023 Views
secular marriage is decoupled from religious marriage - 12/08/2010 02:50:43 PM 1148 Views
Simple, require the legal and religious marriage to be performed separately. - 12/08/2010 02:58:43 PM 985 Views
What in the world would that accomplish? - 12/08/2010 03:44:32 PM 1069 Views
Provide some much-needed clarity, evidently. - 12/08/2010 03:49:33 PM 919 Views
the problem is it would be changing a centuries old tradition.. - 12/08/2010 04:26:47 PM 930 Views
heheheheheheheHAHAHAHEHEHehehehehahheeh*cough* - 12/08/2010 04:55:09 PM 939 Views
thats OK I am sure you will get over it - 12/08/2010 05:22:08 PM 975 Views
Just guessing, but I think it was the "centuries old tradition" that set off the giggle fit. - 12/08/2010 07:25:38 PM 1099 Views
Really? I was hoping for something better - 12/08/2010 10:06:00 PM 1028 Views
So government recognition makes your religion meaningful? - 12/08/2010 10:11:54 PM 1115 Views
not my religion I'm agnostic - 12/08/2010 10:34:40 PM 978 Views
OK, but the point remains the same. - 12/08/2010 10:51:59 PM 1091 Views
Of course it would - 12/08/2010 11:10:03 PM 1163 Views
I'm not far left, thank you very much. *NM* - 12/08/2010 10:20:31 PM 588 Views
no but your are European and that slants your views *NM* - 12/08/2010 10:36:01 PM 579 Views
Sure, but in this case it has little to do with left or right. - 12/08/2010 10:40:42 PM 1033 Views
that is what I said when I metioned you were European *NM* - 12/08/2010 11:11:31 PM 580 Views
Simples - 12/08/2010 09:30:31 PM 1060 Views
there are about 140 post ranging from boyscouts to infant babtism - 12/08/2010 10:57:46 PM 1057 Views
So. - 14/08/2010 01:27:59 AM 896 Views
sorry I responded I forgot what a tool you are. my bad - 14/08/2010 02:48:57 AM 1415 Views
Agreed *NM* - 12/08/2010 03:45:04 PM 465 Views
I love you, Camilla - 12/08/2010 04:02:15 PM 857 Views
Re: I love you, Camilla - 12/08/2010 04:04:10 PM 1047 Views
Is there an all above option? *NM* - 12/08/2010 04:23:24 PM 621 Views
Naturally. - 12/08/2010 04:25:14 PM 1037 Views
I know I do *NM* - 12/08/2010 05:17:35 PM 545 Views
Another thing - 12/08/2010 07:42:21 PM 1123 Views
A couple of things - 12/08/2010 12:58:09 PM 1028 Views
I disagree - 12/08/2010 07:47:26 PM 1148 Views
Well, you're within your rights to certainly - 12/08/2010 08:24:30 PM 1122 Views
there is major flaw in your argument - 12/08/2010 03:31:45 PM 1164 Views
Re: there is major flaw in your argument - 12/08/2010 04:01:32 PM 1048 Views
I should clarify that I support gay marriage - 12/08/2010 05:20:36 PM 984 Views
One point about Prop. 8 - 12/08/2010 07:38:55 PM 1027 Views
I know that is the commonl;y held belief but I thinkit is wrong - 12/08/2010 10:32:58 PM 949 Views
Religious institutions, though, pushed hard to pass it. - 12/08/2010 10:42:33 PM 1035 Views
there are major flaws in your argument - 12/08/2010 07:51:52 PM 1126 Views
Women can't be priests in the Catholic church. - 12/08/2010 08:00:24 PM 807 Views
Hehe. You beat me by 6 seconds. *NM* - 12/08/2010 08:03:28 PM 495 Views
Great minds and all. *NM* - 12/08/2010 08:06:01 PM 500 Views
I was writing a reply to this post... - 12/08/2010 03:51:01 PM 1050 Views
I feel your pain *NM* - 12/08/2010 07:52:28 PM 579 Views
Forcing religious institutions to marry gay couples is hideously unconstitutional. - 12/08/2010 04:18:59 PM 1076 Views
100% agreed. - 12/08/2010 05:05:35 PM 1130 Views
This. *NM* - 12/08/2010 07:36:57 PM 424 Views
You are absolutely wrong - 12/08/2010 07:57:19 PM 1069 Views
By that token - 12/08/2010 08:00:30 PM 950 Views
My God.... - 12/08/2010 09:49:18 PM 1017 Views
no You are absolutely wrong - 12/08/2010 10:08:57 PM 958 Views
Well, that was horrifyingly stupid. - 13/08/2010 12:57:46 AM 1041 Views
I am a Christian who wholeheartedly supports Gay Marriage. - 12/08/2010 06:49:28 PM 1156 Views
Fair enough. - 12/08/2010 08:01:37 PM 1086 Views
Why do people equate.... - 12/08/2010 07:11:15 PM 985 Views
Because "homophobic", like "xenophobic", has shifted a bit in meaning... - 12/08/2010 07:33:56 PM 1065 Views
So then.... - 12/08/2010 07:39:24 PM 992 Views
Well, strongly anti-gay, yes. - 12/08/2010 07:43:40 PM 842 Views
Homophobic is generally "anti-gay" or "anti-queer"... - 12/08/2010 07:46:22 PM 1144 Views
Re: Why do people equate.... - 12/08/2010 08:04:24 PM 1137 Views
+1 - 12/08/2010 08:06:19 PM 1175 Views
Stop with the pile on Camilla. - 12/08/2010 09:22:35 PM 1103 Views
You would have said nothing if I had just said "agreed" - 12/08/2010 09:27:33 PM 925 Views
Which speaks highly of you.... - 12/08/2010 09:36:30 PM 1104 Views
This is being very petty. *NM* - 12/08/2010 09:41:26 PM 550 Views
As opposed to a snarky +1 comment? *NM* - 12/08/2010 09:45:02 PM 570 Views
It's not snarky. - 12/08/2010 09:47:47 PM 1040 Views
Its a +1 shorthand comment... - 12/08/2010 09:52:04 PM 1330 Views
Wow. Those two characters allowed you to read Camilla's motivations? - 12/08/2010 09:54:25 PM 958 Views
*shrug* - 12/08/2010 09:58:42 PM 1165 Views
Yes, I am terribly selfish - 13/08/2010 09:10:54 AM 945 Views
Re: Why do people equate.... - 12/08/2010 09:13:07 PM 1137 Views
Re: Why do people equate.... - 12/08/2010 09:26:41 PM 1045 Views
LOL - 12/08/2010 09:42:32 PM 1017 Views
Re: LOL - 13/08/2010 09:12:29 AM 965 Views
you are exactly why the state needs to make a clear seperation between the secular and religious - 12/08/2010 09:33:22 PM 1017 Views
Ok, so if the state does then... - 12/08/2010 09:44:31 PM 955 Views
No, marriage started because of property. - 12/08/2010 09:59:14 PM 1051 Views
So then two things come to mind... - 12/08/2010 10:04:39 PM 1028 Views
Only two? - 12/08/2010 10:27:08 PM 1025 Views
Is this the same guy... - 12/08/2010 10:43:02 PM 939 Views
I thought the cow died in an accident, but yes... that guy. - 12/08/2010 10:58:46 PM 1010 Views
That's a little difficult to do - 13/08/2010 03:19:32 PM 1186 Views
Re: That's a little difficult to do - 13/08/2010 03:30:14 PM 1054 Views
Oh, I hope not - 13/08/2010 04:19:47 PM 1053 Views
I may be wrong - 13/08/2010 04:24:28 PM 1006 Views
Property isn't just agricultural. - 13/08/2010 06:11:12 PM 936 Views
True enough - 16/08/2010 03:12:31 PM 1250 Views
yes but about half of the old testament deals with protecting those rights - 13/08/2010 05:16:09 PM 1015 Views
The relationship between religion and rain go even farther back... - 13/08/2010 06:15:32 PM 1000 Views
to me it is a beside the point when it comes to the law - 13/08/2010 06:25:50 PM 1028 Views
moot, not mute - 13/08/2010 08:48:04 PM 1250 Views
damn - 13/08/2010 08:52:23 PM 1095 Views
Actually, I agree with that - 12/08/2010 10:01:37 PM 902 Views
See, now this, I could deal with.... - 12/08/2010 10:06:15 PM 900 Views
So is it that you are hung up on the name then? - 13/08/2010 03:29:02 PM 970 Views
Rights.... - 12/08/2010 09:34:45 PM 989 Views
See, what I don't get is why gay people care about - 12/08/2010 08:18:45 PM 1011 Views
It's mostly about getting married in the eyes of the state. - 12/08/2010 08:42:52 PM 1128 Views
I'm fairly sure Jonte was referring only to the "churches have to accept gay marriages" bit. *NM* - 12/08/2010 08:44:52 PM 599 Views
Hmmm... Then I shall reply to that part here. - 12/08/2010 08:50:10 PM 1126 Views
Oh, so it is an american thing, then. *NM* - 14/08/2010 08:58:28 AM 541 Views
Starting again - 12/08/2010 08:23:08 PM 1098 Views
Not at all - 12/08/2010 10:58:45 PM 1039 Views
Re: Not at all - 13/08/2010 09:14:48 AM 834 Views
Agreed *NM* - 13/08/2010 10:21:06 AM 435 Views
Oh dear - 13/08/2010 10:30:45 AM 949 Views
But what if I like being selfish and evil? *NM* - 13/08/2010 11:25:01 AM 565 Views
Well, being English might help you get away with it - 13/08/2010 11:26:17 AM 828 Views
I'm curious - 13/08/2010 01:49:15 PM 995 Views
- 13/08/2010 01:54:19 PM 886 Views
Okay, good. - 13/08/2010 01:58:14 PM 1057 Views
I suppose you also think that religious Pacifists should be eligible for the draft? - 12/08/2010 08:42:21 PM 1107 Views
very nicely said *NM* - 13/08/2010 02:16:53 PM 449 Views

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