It's probably a good idea to make sure what you're bitching about makes SENSE first.
Story:
Yesterday, I had to leave work early to be at home by four o'clock for a guy to do a telephone switchover (changing providers).
My ex had emailed me in the morning saying 'What do you need for the couple days Melly is with you this week?'
So I sent her an email back detailing what I needed, warning her that I'd be coming a bit early and that I'd pick the stuff up before picking up Melly at daycare. I told her I'd send her another mail when I was leaving (which gives her around a half an hour notice as that's how long the drive is).
So, I do this.
I get to the apartment she's staying at. I'm right on time. Now the buzzer for the apartment goes to a cell phone - and that phone is normally with the guy whose apartment it is, and he's at work. So while he could buzz me in by cell, I'd be bothering him at work. Normally when I've alerted Amy she just looks over the balcony and comes down with the stuff. This is fine.
No Amy at balcony. I wait. Five minutes goes by. Ten. I'm worried now about getting home in time. Still have to go by the daycare. Fifteen minutes has gone by. Running out of time. Still no Amy. Okay, I'll go buzz or ask the super to go up or something.
So I walk over and the main doors are all propped open. The super is doing the floors with a buffer. "Is it okay for me to go up to 312? I need to pick some stuff up for my daughter."
"Sure, no problem."
Now I've been there before, lots of times. It's quite possible she knows me. So I go up, knock on the door, chat with Amy, get the stuff and get on my way. I BARELY make it home by four right on the dot. 4:10 by my watch, but it's always fast by about ten minutes.
So I'm waiting for the phone guy when I get this call from Matt, the guy whose apartment it is, bitching me out for going up without buzzing. "There are rules you know!"
I'm like, "Umm what? I asked the super, she said to just go up!" So he starts grilling me about the super, who it was and stuff - and I'm like "WTF, who cares?"
So he keeps bitching about how it's against the rules to go up without buzzing and the like. I tell him to take it up with his super, but he insists it is somehow my fault blah blah blah. He's all stressed, blah blah blah.
I'm pretty flustered. This guy's yelling at me, Melly's getting into stuff and I haven't got time for this. "Whatever, fine, whatever you like" - and I get off the phone.
But I'm still pissed about this. It makes no sense.
1) The rules in every apartment block I've been in (I've never actually lived in one but have been to zillions, natch) are 'Don't let in anyone you don't know.' Well I didn't, I know who I am.
2) The super said to go. If anyone broke the rules she did. And it's possible she didn't as she may have known me.
3) WTF good would buzzing have done? Let's see - if I buzzed him, his cell phone would have interrupted him at work. And what could he have done? Buzzed me in. But wait, the door was propped open- so I didn't need to be buzzed in. He still couldn't have phoned Amy, she has no phone.
4) If he'd left his phone with Amy (they do that sometimes but how am I to know) what would the point of buzzing have been? She could have buzzed me up - but oh wait the door is still open so that's pointless, or come down, which would have been fine, but what difference does that make?
5) What's the point of bitching someone out over such a nothing? Nothing happened, no one cared, there was just NO FREAKIN' POINT of causing that whole scene over NOTHING! Everything was fine, nothing happened.
As far as I know I didn't even break any rules but he insists I did. What rule? I don't know. One that only he has been told or exists only in his head? And it still makes NO SENSE!
I'm only bitching here because it's that or rip his head off while I'm mad and that probably isn't wise. So thanks for letting me bitch.
Does this make ANY sense to anyone? Am I missing something?
Story:
Yesterday, I had to leave work early to be at home by four o'clock for a guy to do a telephone switchover (changing providers).
My ex had emailed me in the morning saying 'What do you need for the couple days Melly is with you this week?'
So I sent her an email back detailing what I needed, warning her that I'd be coming a bit early and that I'd pick the stuff up before picking up Melly at daycare. I told her I'd send her another mail when I was leaving (which gives her around a half an hour notice as that's how long the drive is).
So, I do this.
I get to the apartment she's staying at. I'm right on time. Now the buzzer for the apartment goes to a cell phone - and that phone is normally with the guy whose apartment it is, and he's at work. So while he could buzz me in by cell, I'd be bothering him at work. Normally when I've alerted Amy she just looks over the balcony and comes down with the stuff. This is fine.
No Amy at balcony. I wait. Five minutes goes by. Ten. I'm worried now about getting home in time. Still have to go by the daycare. Fifteen minutes has gone by. Running out of time. Still no Amy. Okay, I'll go buzz or ask the super to go up or something.
So I walk over and the main doors are all propped open. The super is doing the floors with a buffer. "Is it okay for me to go up to 312? I need to pick some stuff up for my daughter."
"Sure, no problem."
Now I've been there before, lots of times. It's quite possible she knows me. So I go up, knock on the door, chat with Amy, get the stuff and get on my way. I BARELY make it home by four right on the dot. 4:10 by my watch, but it's always fast by about ten minutes.
So I'm waiting for the phone guy when I get this call from Matt, the guy whose apartment it is, bitching me out for going up without buzzing. "There are rules you know!"
I'm like, "Umm what? I asked the super, she said to just go up!" So he starts grilling me about the super, who it was and stuff - and I'm like "WTF, who cares?"
So he keeps bitching about how it's against the rules to go up without buzzing and the like. I tell him to take it up with his super, but he insists it is somehow my fault blah blah blah. He's all stressed, blah blah blah.
I'm pretty flustered. This guy's yelling at me, Melly's getting into stuff and I haven't got time for this. "Whatever, fine, whatever you like" - and I get off the phone.
But I'm still pissed about this. It makes no sense.
1) The rules in every apartment block I've been in (I've never actually lived in one but have been to zillions, natch) are 'Don't let in anyone you don't know.' Well I didn't, I know who I am.
2) The super said to go. If anyone broke the rules she did. And it's possible she didn't as she may have known me.
3) WTF good would buzzing have done? Let's see - if I buzzed him, his cell phone would have interrupted him at work. And what could he have done? Buzzed me in. But wait, the door was propped open- so I didn't need to be buzzed in. He still couldn't have phoned Amy, she has no phone.
4) If he'd left his phone with Amy (they do that sometimes but how am I to know) what would the point of buzzing have been? She could have buzzed me up - but oh wait the door is still open so that's pointless, or come down, which would have been fine, but what difference does that make?
5) What's the point of bitching someone out over such a nothing? Nothing happened, no one cared, there was just NO FREAKIN' POINT of causing that whole scene over NOTHING! Everything was fine, nothing happened.
As far as I know I didn't even break any rules but he insists I did. What rule? I don't know. One that only he has been told or exists only in his head? And it still makes NO SENSE!
I'm only bitching here because it's that or rip his head off while I'm mad and that probably isn't wise. So thanks for letting me bitch.
Does this make ANY sense to anyone? Am I missing something?
This has more to do with her finding a new knight-in-shining-armor to rescue her, and his believing whatever she's told him about you, than it has to do with anything you did or didn't do. It might very well be that their relationship is platonic right now (and she might even want it to be that way) but I'd be exceedingly surprised if he didn't have an interest in more
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12/08/2010 12:31:28 PM
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I suspect
12/08/2010 01:42:32 PM
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It's his apartment, and you are the X.
12/08/2010 02:51:26 PM
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My bet is a combination of all the above, with a heavy dose of #2.
12/08/2010 03:57:19 PM
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