Re: Yeah, physically. 
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- Edit 3Before modification by Joel at 08/09/2009 07:27:49 AM
Well, a lot of them happen to be gay, which would be kind of a deal breaker for most chicks. Not that I'm saying I'd be into effeminate guys (this conversation is heading downhill fast... ) just that it perplexes me how guys who consider a loud belch a suitable substitute for "I Love you" get dates. 
) just that it perplexes me how guys who consider a loud belch a suitable substitute for "I Love you" get dates. Women are just as disgusting as guys, perhaps more so. Guys are just more open about it.
Awww, c'mon; everyone knows girls belch butterflies and fart flowers (it used to be unicorns, but that was deemed too painful.
)It's not a hard and fast rule, obviously, but in my experience the trend is for sick people to be attracted to other sick people, and repulsed by healthy ones (it doesn't help that healthy people tend to regard them as in the "run screaming" category. ) I'm currently watching my soon to be divorced uncle go through a lot of the same thought processes I did last year, with greater cause, of course. What I learned from my own brief unpleasantness is 1) we all have issues, so making everything the other persons fault does US no long term good and 2) until we accept things as they are instead of wishing they were otherwise we can't progress, not in terms of restoring lasting happiness and not in terms of resolving our own issues. If someone keeps getting tangled up with douches that has to be done, else they'll just bounce from douche to douche indefinitely, and if they DO happen to meet someone worth being with that person will either get dragged down to their level or want nothing to do with them romantically.
) I'm currently watching my soon to be divorced uncle go through a lot of the same thought processes I did last year, with greater cause, of course. What I learned from my own brief unpleasantness is 1) we all have issues, so making everything the other persons fault does US no long term good and 2) until we accept things as they are instead of wishing they were otherwise we can't progress, not in terms of restoring lasting happiness and not in terms of resolving our own issues. If someone keeps getting tangled up with douches that has to be done, else they'll just bounce from douche to douche indefinitely, and if they DO happen to meet someone worth being with that person will either get dragged down to their level or want nothing to do with them romantically.Well, you know, I have some friends who are attracted to total douchebags and I just can't see why. Now, you recognized your deal and got away from it. Some people I think just don't know what their deal is- that's the way it is with my one friend from South Carolina. She has two kids by two dads (married both times,) and they sound like utter shitwads. She talks about these guys she dates, and she's always afraid to be honest with someone that she really likes them. I ask her, if you're afraid to be honest about something like that, what's going to happen when you're together and you have to tell him something hard?
Very true, but that's healthy thinking.
The really sad part is that it's at least very likely the ones who'd be OK with it wouldn't attract her in the first place, unless they were simply "OK with it" because so desperate to get any girl under any circumstances, or because they already have a string of girlfriends they left in similar situations.*nods* Understandable. But feel free to hit the link and register anyway (registration is free, but required to get the preview. ) I'm sure Tor is tracking where people visit from, and I'm hoping readandfindout will be well represented in that regard. As the series draws to a close a more general focus will make more and more sense here, but in the interim the Quick Poll on which board people think will get most of their time seems very telling to me: A clear majority said they'd spend most of their time on the WoTMB.
I'm surprised by that, actually. How much of the community is really here?
Hard to tell, really. I think nearly everyone who was active at the end is here, but between the skewed Active User list and the fact I was mainly on the CMB I'm not certain how many that is. I know we got a fair amount of redirect traffic, at least the first few days (when that Quick Poll was taken) and I know my own User ID# is just under 300, even though I registered the second day (I'd been up too long and couldn't stay awake the extra hour or two before the site opened, especially since I couldn't be sure some big bug wouldn't come along and push that back some. ) Beyond that your guess is as good as mine.