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That's a nice way of saying "I'm antisociably shy." Ghavrel Send a noteboard - 13/09/2011 09:43:17 AM

i have an issue with going out of my way to conform to a social norm



Joking aside, working on social skills has little to do with "conforming" and much more to do with making people feel comfortable, including yourself.
"We feel safe when we read what we recognise, what does not challenge our way of thinking.... a steady acceptance of pre-arranged patterns leads to the inability to question what we are told."
~Camilla

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does seeing someone reading a book you like justify striking up a conversation Foxhead - 10/09/2011 08:21:28 PM 1369 Views
I keep wanting to, but I never do Camilla - 10/09/2011 11:07:07 PM 1126 Views
take the plunge! Foxhead - 11/09/2011 10:07:45 AM 1311 Views
Only if you fancy them and are using it as an excuse to chat them up. *NM* Tim - 10/09/2011 11:44:07 PM 455 Views
with ulterior motives? Foxhead - 11/09/2011 10:10:46 AM 959 Views
I wouldn't interuppt someone while they are reading. LadyLorraine - 11/09/2011 03:16:50 AM 1238 Views
that's worse surely! Foxhead - 11/09/2011 10:13:15 AM 1146 Views
not to me. LadyLorraine - 11/09/2011 05:59:19 PM 1022 Views
it is pretty easy tell if they would rather just be reading random thoughts - 12/09/2011 03:13:30 PM 1068 Views
I guess my thing is I just hate to be interrupted and don't want to do it to someone else LadyLorraine - 12/09/2011 04:28:30 PM 1124 Views
you get that immersed even in public area? random thoughts - 12/09/2011 06:52:54 PM 972 Views
Usually. If it's not a situation where I CAN, I just won't read. LadyLorraine - 12/09/2011 07:23:48 PM 1160 Views
Did you not like the other trilogy? Gher - 11/09/2011 03:36:18 AM 1234 Views
erm, not as much Foxhead - 11/09/2011 10:19:03 AM 1046 Views
I used to be timid. Now I don't care and will happily interrupt. Ghavrel - 11/09/2011 07:42:35 AM 1138 Views
Yeah, exactly Praziquantel - 11/09/2011 07:53:48 AM 1139 Views
it's the "i will probably never see again" i can't get my head around Foxhead - 11/09/2011 10:21:45 AM 1054 Views
I guess that depends on how you go about it random thoughts - 12/09/2011 03:16:38 PM 948 Views
That's a nice way of saying "I'm antisociably shy." Ghavrel - 13/09/2011 09:43:17 AM 1083 Views
no i meant the opposite Foxhead - 13/09/2011 02:20:48 PM 1002 Views
Answers to questions asked. Palatine - 11/09/2011 03:34:32 PM 1057 Views
i asked because i wondered how many people would welcome it or view it as an intrusion Foxhead - 13/09/2011 02:25:32 PM 1060 Views
I love talking to perfect strangers imlad - 15/09/2011 05:34:27 PM 1419 Views
I have just gone up to someone and said "good choice in book" Fox and Ravens - 11/09/2011 04:49:21 PM 1057 Views
did he reply or did you back away...staring and pointing at the book? Foxhead - 13/09/2011 02:27:45 PM 1117 Views
I can't resist that. I will always say something. Many people have done the same with me Tashmere - 11/09/2011 06:10:36 PM 1159 Views
are a small town girl? Foxhead - 13/09/2011 02:30:46 PM 1159 Views
How do you even figure out what they're reading? Vivien - 12/09/2011 05:44:30 AM 1105 Views
NYC is wierd *NM* random thoughts - 12/09/2011 03:17:35 PM 431 Views
i look at the cover, i very rarely see someone reading a book bent back on itself *NM* Foxhead - 13/09/2011 02:31:52 PM 582 Views
I can usually tell what people are reading with a glance. rebelaessedai - 15/09/2011 01:49:06 AM 1321 Views
Thats why I am glad I don't live in NYC imlad - 15/09/2011 05:41:47 PM 1227 Views
NYC really is a concrete 'jungle' Praziquantel - 15/09/2011 09:41:59 PM 1134 Views
Thats just irritating when it happens to me...I never would do that to another human. *NM* Ryan - 12/09/2011 08:54:06 AM 495 Views
Hmm, what about a Cocker Spaniel? *NM* Kotagg - 13/09/2011 02:39:08 AM 484 Views
Re: No. RomaVenkat - 12/09/2011 02:51:40 PM 1103 Views
I stirke up conversation with strangers all the time random thoughts - 12/09/2011 03:12:09 PM 1054 Views
exactly! imlad - 15/09/2011 05:46:57 PM 1179 Views
It depends on the situation DomA - 12/09/2011 07:26:02 PM 1047 Views
i love the farseer books too! and yeah a little weird, but not that weird *NM* temeraire - 13/09/2011 10:37:53 PM 398 Views
I think so, but it isn't always appreciated. Vodalus - 15/09/2011 03:20:07 AM 1173 Views
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