well, ok, i didn't usually know what to do when i was online... now i have tons of posts to read through. and surveys to answer. in fact, i spend so much time reading posts that i forget to do things like attempt to play in the chat room, or ever post anything of my own... but life is still really good.
"But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand."
from 'the velveteen rabbit'
first warder to lord malshun
Who would dare?
Wotmania helped me see that his drug abuse wasn't going to get better and that I was enabling him. It was also an escape from that drama. And a support group when I finally moved out with my baby to my mom's. 14 years later I'm in a healthy happy marriage 10 years strong with two boys. A teenager who knows everything and a four year old who does as well. I never have to think for my self again! 
Also I found my Grimbear lifelong partner boyfriend husband love machine! I'm definitely better for wotmania. So many wonderful people who enrich my life daily!!