When writing that post I knew I was missing out practically all of the legal stuff, I apologise for that.

That's all quite interesting actually. Do you think that marriage will 'add' anything to your relationship, or would you be doing it purely for the legal reasons?

Do I think that getting married will "add" anything? I have to say that I do, because otherwise why do it? But maybe in our case what it will add IS the legality/perception piece. You have to understand that I am a firm believer in the everybody's-situation-is-different philosophy, but I can't say whether that is the reason for my current circumstances or a product of them (chicken or egg, anyone?) He and I have been together for going on 11 years. Yes, I realize our situation is quite an oddity. As Alric and others have pointed out, it isn't always easy and there is a LOT of work involved. But we have both committed ourselves to each other and to this relationship without the "formality" of it. At some point we too went through that transformative place (great description, whoever that was). So will it make our relationship "better" to be married? I don't see how (but I'm willing to concede that maybe that's because I've never been married and don't have that experience to draw from), because it is already terrific on so many different levels. But we will have the societal benefits, if you will, that are afforded only to spouses.




Alric has bats in the attic. ~Larisa