Hm. You ask a good question here. I used to think that marriage was just a piece of paper. The last guy I was with before my husband, was a relationship that lasted 5 and 1/2 years. I used to kind of wish he would propose, but that really was just for the sake of hearing "the speech of devotion" that ALL , yes ALL girls want to hear. We broke up shortly thereafter. I really USED to think that love was enough. Then, when I met Curt, I knew he was the guy I wanted to MARRY, and I knew that I wanted to be married. If you don't think you want to be married to the person, then they aren't the right one.

In theory, "love will be strong enough to bind us together" is true. but it just does not work in real life ("on paper", as it were )

As far as the piece of paper goes, it's not "back up" as you put it. It's the wax seal on the letter. It's the icing on the cake, it's the... you get what I mean.

I used to think that marriage was just a legal contract and a piece of paper. But there is something that comes over you, almost like a magic spell, when you say your vows to your new spouse in front of a witness. It is a magic I can't explain. Not only do I think it was worth it, our relationship is better. It is also more challenging, but that crap only comes from the new legal crap like TAXES and MORTGAGE.

And commenting on divorce... Unless my husband turns out to be a huge @$$hole that I never thought he would be, we won't get divorced.

I was VERY picky and selective. You don't just say "I love you very much so let's get married" If I married everyone I fell in love with, I would have to change my name to Liz Taylor. It's not about love. It's about committing your lives to each other.
And I don't mean , "Yeah I guess I could deal with staying with that person for a lifetime". I KNOW this is the man for me. Feeling that you are able to tolerate someone's faults for life are NOT the grounds for marriage.

Feeling you can be supportive, loving, honest, etc to each other for a lifetime is the gorunds for marriage.

Marriage is not just a piece of paper. I hope my response helped you understand my point of view. if not,

Then maybe I am just a big mushy sappy person




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